Why am I not getting pregnant!!??

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hi!
Bit of background, I am 32, dh is 34, I have 3 dcs from my first marriage. Dh has no children.
we have been ttc baby #4 (#1 for us) for 6 months now and nothing!!
I got pregnant with dc first month each time with the first three.
cpuld it be that I am now 16 years older than dc1?
my cycles are slightly irregular, but we’ve dtd every other day this month and I did a test today at 11dpo and bfn!

any hints or tips on increasing fertility!?

Do you track when you're ovulating? BBT and OPKs?

I did for a while but dh suggested we just try to chill and dtd every other day as I was stressing myself out with them!

Might not be you it could be him?

If you got pregnant so quickly with your ex sounds to me like it could well be your partner. Still 6 months isnt that long to try. 32 is quite young for a decline in your fertility. IMHO.

I think deep down I have been worried that there may be an issue with his fertility, I guess that’s something I may have to bring up in the future if we aren’t successful! I think it’s just getting harder each month there’s a bfn. I know in the grand scheme of things 6 months is not much but it’s difficult when you want something so badly!

Send him to do a private sperm test!

It's probably him!

Took us 2 years to conceive number 1 and then fell pregnant twice first time after they were born. No issue with either of us (went through all the tests) sometimes there just doesn't seem a reason!

I just assumed that the issue would be with me as I was 21 when I had dc3 and haven’t had a baby or pregnancy since then. Been on the pop pill since!
I guess I am struggling with the waiting and I know people have it so much worse than me which makes me feel awful for being so impatient. My sister has been told she is unlikely to conceive without intervention and I am here stressing about it when I have three children.

It might not be her partner I got pregnant with my first two kids dad 4 month after getting together, we split up and I've had another 2 kids since then it took 4 years each time to conceive them two, I am now back with my first two kids dad and have been for nearly 3 years and not even fallen pregnant.

Hi
This reply might not be much help, could be total bunkum but you never know and you asked for tips: -

After about four months I had read that cashew nuts were good for you, nuts for nuts, so started eating king prawn and cashews, old wives’ tale they strengthen sperm. I was also trying deeper penetration and also trying to make DW climax after my ejaculation by any means which is supposed to help draw the sperm deeper.

As I say the above could be total bunkum, but she did fall pregnant, twice since in similar circumstances, coincidence? Could be.

Also, I have a few friends that swear by Acupuncture, I know I didn’t even think it a thing but specific acupuncture to boost fertility has worked for some and you are looking at £50 to try it.

Obviously, if there is a bigger issue here you need it checked out properly but sounds like early days to me, best not to stress about it for the next six months and if nothing then check out for underlining issues. Stressing wont help so essential you try and relax, forget about it, let events take there course and as i say have some fun

Good Luck

In that case I wouldn't mention this to your sister... I am the same as your sister and have been battling with infertility for 4 years. Still waiting for my first baby!