TTC after miscarriage

[Laro23]

Hi all.

New to this but sadly not to TTC. We started trying properly for our first at the start of April, got pregnant very quickly in May (2nd cycle,) but sadly miscarried at 5 weeks. Been TTC since but no luck. On cycle 3 since MC now. My husband had covid first cycle post MC, then I had it 2nd cycle post MC. We still tried but no luck.

My cycles are fairly short (22-24 days) and I usually get a positive OPK (CB one that gives you flashing and static smileys) on cd 10. This month however I got a positive OPK on cd 8 which feels way too early. I've got myself in a bit of a state because I'm so desperate to get pregnant again :(

Not really sure what I'm asking for here but falling apart a little! Any advice or positive experiences very welcomed.

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Hi,

Sorry to hear of you loss OP and watching this thread with interest; had a mc at 6 weeks earlier this week and eager to get back to trying again as soon as possible. Will keep my fingers crossed for you @Laro23 that you get your BFP soon 🤞

it's really hard, isn't it? i got pregnant after 7 months, confirmed miscarriage at 10 weeks and now onto my 6th cycle again, i'm going stir crazy, i just want to be pregnant and have a baby. hope you get your BFP soon

Sorry about your loss @Laro23. Don’t lose hope. We started TTC last year - at 36 as well I felt pressured for time, and had a chemical and a 6-7 week MC in a row. Took a good few months off TTC because of bad anxiety. Got pregnant again, 12 weeks now and LO is looking well.

Your ovulation dates seem fine given your short cycles. I had a different problem - my luteal cycle is on the short side (11-12 days post ovulation), but it was okay.

With covid, recent research by UCL showed an increased MC risk for those catching it in early pregnancy (it nearly doubles) - I know this is poor consolation but those covid cycles might not have been the best to get pregnant.

Fingers crossed for your BFP soon x

Thank you so much @stardust. So pleased to hear your wonderful news and thank you for sharing! I also have a luteal phase on the shorter side (usually) - between 10-11 days. So I'm feeling as though everything is against us at the moment! Keeping everything crossed we get some good news soon... Look after yourself! X

It is SO hard. I am so sorry to hear you've had to go through the heartbreak and aftermath of anxiety too. I'm trying to hold on to how common MC is and that it's a good sign we can actually get pregnant.... Although I must be honest the days I think that way are few and far between! X

@ZoeQ90 my msg above was for you - I'm useless at this! Sorry x

@Laro23 no advice but I know how you’re feeling💜 I had a mmc, had medical management and have stopped bleeding but just waiting for a negative test. Being pregnant and actually getting my healthy baby at the end of it seems so so far away now!

Hi, I saw your post and wanted to share my story. I had an MMC last July at 9 weeks. We had gotten pregnant on our second month TTC and I was 36. My cycles were a little out of whack for two months after the MC, but we got pregnant again six months after that. I'm now almost 23 weeks (and 37 years old). It WILL happen again. Until then, do whatever you need to do to grieve and try to spoil yourself. It's a shitty time so give in to guilty pleasures and be selfish. The waiting felt like an eternity when I was in it, and of course now in hindsight it seems like it wasn't so bad. Feel free to reach out, it was really helpful for me to connect with others going through the same thing. ❤️❤️

❤️ so grateful for you taking the time out to respond to me. It's the best news to hear you had a super happy ending - hugest congratulations. Thank you so much for your positivity. X

@ChloeN sending you the biggest hug. There aren't words that do the experience justice. I remember feeling like the bleeding was never going to stop - the constant reminder of what's happening to your body really adds insult to injury. One day we'll look back on this and realise how insanely strong and resilient we were to get through this. Here if you want to chat anything through. Don't be alone with it. X

@Laro23 thank you lovely💕 I think I was lucky really that the pain and bleeding wasn’t too bad,I’d read so many horror stories I was absolutely dreading it! I feel like the wait to be pregnant again is going to be so much harder than actually losing the baby! I fell pregnant first time trying for this baby so trying not to put too much pressure on that happening again😬

Hi all, also in the same boat. MMC in Dec last year at 12 weeks and been TTC since and have had zero, not even a smidge of a line in that time. Think I'm about to get AF tomorrow and it still hurts every month.

@stardust00 did you do anything for your shorter LP? I was always 13 days pre MC and now I'm 10/11 and of course worried there isn't enough time to implant. I've started more B6 this cycle but not sure it's done anything... Has anyone else tried anything that's worked?!

@ZoeQ90 very similar story of here, it's so rough isn't it ❤️

@Laro23 Thank you and fingers crossed for your rainbow baby soon! xx

@MO22 I think my LP has always been on the shorter side - at least since I started TTC/tracking ovulation and become aware of it. But after the MCs my cycles got a bit wonky in terms of length and ovulation dates and I took up acupuncture for a few weeks, to calm the anxiety and help the body recover (so the targeted points would be for relaxation as well as hormonal rebalance and increasing blood flow to uterus). I don’t know whether that had any effect - it might have improved on its own - but I did quickly see the difference, my cycles got regular again and less painful. LP got fixed at 12 days. I’m not advocating acupuncture but there’s some research suggesting its benefits for fertility, for me to be honest just the relaxation of it was great and in a way feeling like I was supporting my body. Good luck to you xx

@Laro23 another one here to say it will happen again! Each cycle in between mc and your next pregnancy feels like a kick in the teeth- I remember stamping on a BFN test in a rage cycle 5 I think it was- but the next cycle I was pregnant again and that was DC1.

The wait is so so hard and then when you are pregnant again the anxiety is so hard to cope with. I went on to have three more mc and everyone told me it would happen again. My GP said to me 'when you're in it, you won't believe it, but there's no reason it won't be ok'.

She was right, it was ok and DC2 is now 15 weeks and sleeping beside me.

@glowingtwig thank you so much. Waking up to read your message has helped more than I can say! I'm definitely spiralling at the moment but reading things like this just make such a difference, so thank you. Hope you're enjoying those new(ish) born cuddles!

@Laro23 I really really do know exactly how you feel. You start thinking that getting pregnant so quickly was some kind of massive fluke and that was your only chance (my first ever pregnancy was conceived second cycle) then it took 6 more to get DD.

A few more things that helped me:

My GP (ex obs and gynae registrar) telling me, 'look, you're ovulating, you're fertile, it will be ok'

My best friend telling me 'not even the most fertile woman in the world gets pregnant that quickly each go'

Also, maybe a bit weird, but following the seasons and thinking about which season would bring my next pregnancy. I also passed this tree on my way to work and would think things like when these new buds arrive, I could be pregnant. Worked for me anyway and was positive thinking.

You get the baby you are meant to have and honestly, I can't imagine my two any other way as they are now.

Plus I was 38 when I had DD and 41 for DS ❤️

@stardust00 thank you so much for your reply. I actually do accupuncture - can only really afford once a month so do it around ovulation because I have PCOS, and that along with lots of other variables (medication, supplements, exercise) has got me ovulated much earlier which is good. Maybe I should see what she can do for LP too.

@glowingtwig your messages are so lovely and nice to read - I think AF is about to start so I'm now at cycle 8 post MC (19 months of trying) and it feels like I will never see a positive test again most of the time, so it's lovely to read them x

@MO22 so glad it helps to hear positive stories. I got my positive test on holiday a year ago this week for my little boy and I was convinced my period was coming- I even packed sanpro. Thought I was getting a uti on the drive but all along it was little DS making himself at home.

If not this cycle the next, if not the next maybe the next. But you WILL get there.

❤️ thank you. It's such a relief to read positive but realistic stories. If I see/hear another 'i got pregnant first time!' or ',I got pregnant straight after MC' I might cry! The waiting and not knowing is so hard... Just want to be pregnant again! X