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Feeling so miserable TTC

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RoseGold24 · 02/08/2022 10:40

Just that really. I'm 38 and got pregnant after 12 months ttc, I appreciate it's not the longest wait by any means but it felt like forever. I felt from the start like it wasn't meant to last, and Lo and behold at my 6 week viability scan, the pregnancy was... not viable. It's been 3 months since my bleed and luckily my periods have come back regularly and we're trying again, but I just feel so defeated. I despise the tww, I just feel so pathetic to feel any glimmer of excitement and then get my period anyway. Luckily I have an appointment with the assisted conception clinic this week but I can't even look forward to that, just feels like it will be the start of another long journey. Suppose I am looking for a hand hold or a positive story?? Baby dust to everyone x

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MissBeeBee · 02/08/2022 11:11

I wanted to just pass along a virtual hug. I haven't been on this board long but honestly there are so many people who can support you here. Sharing baby dust with you. Xxx

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RoseGold24 · 02/08/2022 11:51

Thanks so much @MissBeeBee Smile

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MissBeeBee · 02/08/2022 16:24

@RoseGold24 are you in the TWW at the moment? I haven't been trying long but my sister has been trying for over 2 years but her husband keeps saying he'll get checked out and never does... she's struggling with it all as she has quite a bad past that she feels is the issue for her. It's tough to know what words of support to give. She's already said she would be slightly upset if I conceive before her so I haven't told her that I'm trying. X

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RoseGold24 · 02/08/2022 16:45

Yeah I'm 10dpo but I feel like my period is coming. Also bfn today even though I know it's too early! Oh that's a difficult situation for you with your sister, but I guess you can't put your life on hold for someone else! It's a shame that her partner won't get his own situation checked out!

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Watchingoverme · 03/08/2022 21:38

@RoseGold24 I'm really sorry your feeling the way that you do. I am only just coming to the end of my first month of TTC atm so I cant imagine how you are feeling
I just wanted to pop in and let ypu know that there are plenty of people here who can help and support by the looks of it, seems like a lovely community here. My fingers are tightly crossed for you xx

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RoseGold24 · 04/08/2022 10:39

Thank you so much @Watchingoverme Guess I'm just getting fed up and need to work out how to deal with it. I wish you a quick and enjoyable ttc journey!

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NatGee · 04/08/2022 21:56

@RoseGold24 you have done so well, at least you know you can get pregnant which is great! I can't imagine how your loss must be affecting you - reality is so much can happen on this journey, i get told that i need to enjoy the experience but its much easier said than done. We're only on our second cycle TTC but can see how the TWW and symptom checking can take over. I am also 38. Wishing you so much luck ps: will you be testing again soon? let us know how you get on

Bex4567 · 01/01/2024 09:27

Did any of you ladies get ya bfp after

riverlodge90 · 01/01/2024 10:32

@Bex4567 Hey, I know you're wanting to get some answers for your own situation but can I kindly ask you stop commenting on old threads on Mumsnet. Its meaning all dead threads are coming up on the news feed and is really quite rude for the original poster too, if they wanted to update they would and you may be bringing up bad memories for them. I've noticed you've wrote on many (50+) dead threads in the last week or so and not said anything but it's really quite annoying now.

Bex4567 · 01/01/2024 11:06

Excuse me its also annoying when people wrote threads and don't update when your going through the same situation yourself.. if it was a problem then an admin would tell me not to or they would close the post. I'm not doing anything wrong and some people do answer on here..if ya that bothered by it report me...

Outliers · 01/01/2024 11:40

@Bex4567 I think you're right that you're not doing anything technically wrong, and it's understandable why you would to know the updates of seemingly similar and comparable posters.

I think what @riverlodge90 is getting at is, sometimes bringing back up these old threads could potentially be a sore spot for the OP, especially if they are still struggling TTC. No one likes to relive an old memory.

Even if half of those women got pregnant, it has no bearing on your situation, as their bodies, fertility issues and circumstances, are unique to them. Whatever worked for them, don't necessarily work for it and vice versa. But I can appreciate the stress and pressure TTC brings, and the desire to find a solution.

My suggestion is, if you click on the search button, and then select advance search, you can search posts by a specific username. You'll be able to tell from their subsequent posts (if any) whether or they were able to conceive.

Hope that helps. Wish you good luck

Bookwormmumuk · 01/01/2024 12:00

It's such a tough thing to be going through, and nothing feels so isolating. Me and DH tried to conceive for 7 years we had a few losses and 2 rounds of IVF aswell, we decided to stop trying in the end because neither of us could go through another loss or long process and I'm now due a baby in Feb. I totally understand how you feel though the constant up and down and looking at everything as a sign or symptom is exhausting emotionally, especially when it seems to happen for other people so easily. I don't have any real advice other than to talk about it with your partner and your support network and keep persevering as it could still happen for you.

riverlodge90 · 01/01/2024 13:52

@Bex4567
I have reported you to admins. Its not about breaking a rule and being blocked off the site. It's about being considerate to the original poster. Constantly commenting on threads from months or years ago from women struggling to conceive is bad manners in general but is also cruel to the original poster. Like I said, if they had a happy ending they probably would have updated the threads. I've noticed some people do reply to you, but your comments are very rude. Your only focused on one outcome "did ya get ya BFP" what if that person did get pregnant but then had a stillborn baby? You haven't even considered that. You just want to reassure yourself that other women who have taken time to conceive have had a positive outcome. That's incredibly selfish.

Bex4567 · 01/01/2024 16:52

If u say so lol. I've also reported u ...

Bex4567 · 01/01/2024 16:55

So happy u gorgeous your bfp ..

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