Is it normal to feel upset at other pregnancy announcements

[Ks1994]

Hey everyone

Looking for abit of reassurance me and my husband have been trying for baby number 2 for 18 months now.
Our first is 7 and we had her at 20 (complete suprise) so never did we think number 2 was going to take this long.

Recently it seems to be pregnancy announcement after announcement and it all got abit much tonight and I got upset for my husband to tell me it's normal to be upset at other people getting pregnant.

Does anyone else feel like this because he's really made me feel like I can't speak to him about it now 🥲.

Surely it's OK to be happy and excited for someone but a little bit upset for yourself and the baby you have wished for. I know o have a child and I am so so so lucky .. but the feeling of wanting to grow our family is becoming so overwhelming recently 🥲.

Sorry that should of been he told me it's not normal to feel like this

Totally normal. I struggled my first took a while to conceive and in that time so many people around me were announcing there news. Which of course I was happy for them but same as you was a little upset for myself that it hadn't happened yet.

I think it's totally valid to feel a bit upset when hearing others news, especially if you want the same news for yourself. Allow yourself to feel that way, it's 100% okay. Perhaps distance yourself from social media (or other places you see announcements etc) whilst you work on focusing on your own journey - remember, every month is a step closer to a BFP 🌟 you got this!

Completely normal. It's as if almost everyone else becomes a fertile myrtle. After my 4th loss it was literally a pregnancy announcement every day on Facebook. I lost count the amount of friends I had to unfollow!

I left a job I loved because everyone was getting pregnant and I was struggling through miscarriage after miscarriage. I stopped watching Brooklyn 99 when Amy got pregnant.

My husband grew up abroad and he eventually stopped telling me when friends of his got pregnant, I only found out about a lot of kids after we finally had a successful pregnancy.

I unfollowed countless people on SM. I only told essential people I was pregnant and was very careful never to make any big announcements or put anything on SM in case there was another poor sod out there like me who would be upset.

You are totally normal, infertility Is a head wreck.

Completely normal

Very normal and I feel the same. Put it in that way” train is stopping to pick up others but always pass your stop and you still there standing and watching others boarding the train and wished it stopped one day for you”. So of course it’s upsetting when you want and try so much and it’s not happening.
i am not ashamed I feel like this. Those who don’t struggle might not understand. Let it be. At least I’m honest with myself.
I am pretty sure many women feel like you/me, but not everyone talks about it and just hide this feeling inside them because they feel ashamed that they feel that way.
I still hope that train will stop for me/you and others one day..

Totally normal, I remember feeling actual rage at a woman who I very vaguely knew posting her scan on instagram- it did pass but you're not on your own!

Totally normal, I struggle with this too! We found out another person we know was expecting this week and I know my DH had put off telling me cos he knows I get upset.

Its horrible because it makes you feel like a terrible person but it’s totally valid and you can still be happy for them and feel that way!

Normal. I’m childless but circumstance and won’t be having any as I’m nearly 50. Busy negotiating my way through the menopause and a family member announces her first pregnancy a few months back. It’s the first baby in the family for 25 years so it’s all everyone can talk about.

I’m really struggling to deal with it. I can’t really be around her. I don’t want to listen when she talks about it, or people bang on in our family WhatsApp group. And I hate myself for it. I feel like the worst person alive.

I am trying to come to terms with it. I am knitting baby clothes like a demon (whilst shedding the odd tear) so that I can show her that I’m pleased for her in my actions even if the words are hard to get out.

It is totally normal to feel this way. As someone who struggled for years TTC our first baby I felt the same way. I also felt upset with people who complained about secondary infertility since I was just jealous they had at least one child. But I wish fertility on anyone who is TTC nowadays.

I can't totally understand where people are coming from with the "you should be lucky you have already have a child" and I am so so grateful.
However circumstances of finding out I was pregnant at 20 when on the pill I never experienced the feeling of wanting and trying for a baby. Right now I feel like I have a wee whole missing in my life that a wee baby will fill and struggling with secondary infertility is awful. I very much go by "there's always going to be someone worse than you, however that doesn't make your feelings any less valid"