TTC #2 - feels like it will never happen

[Charl881]

Just that really. Been TTC #2 for 10 or 11 cycles now and it feels like it will never happen.

AF arrived today so feeling very fed up. Almost tempted to give up and accept having one child as I can’t take the mental turmoil every month any more (I know this isn’t very long compared to what some people go through).

Had initial bloods and they’re fine so next steps are ultrasound and SA which we’ve said we will do once it’s been the full year. But part of me just is feeling so resigned to it not happening that there doesn’t seem any point doing that.

Breaks my heart to look at DS and think he may be my one and only.

Struggling with TTC mentally so much more than I did with him.

Anyone in the same boat or any success stories to inspire me?

Hey @Charl881 I am on cycle 7 TTC number one & I feel the same as you. I know it's not even that long & they do say up to a year or even 2 years sometimes, but I am starting to feel so down and deflated. I have been pregnant twice before when very very young and had a chemical two cycles ago, my OH has two teenage children from a previous marriage and we are both fit and well so I don't understand why it's not happening 😕

Just so you know you aren't alone.

Don't give up, you've had one child so it's totally possible! I never knew just how much of a miracle conceiving is and just how hard it is for every single process to go perfectly for an embryo to form until I started TTC.

It's also really hard to shift your mindset into a patient happy one when it's taking so long because it's like every month when AF shows it just gets even harder so it makes mindset worse.

It's so bloody hard, you aren't alone x

So sorry to hear you’re feeling this way too! I’ve had two chemicals this year too so I know the mental impact that has.

Conceiving is definitely a miracle. I always thought conceiving my DS was a miracle and now it seems even more so.

I really wish I could just enjoy every moment as I know there is no technical rush (I’m 34 so we do still have time and my DS is only 2) but it’s hard when that is over shadowed my the constant fear of infertility.

I really hope it happens for you soon.

You are still very young, even though when you are approaching mid 30s you do naturally feel like your body clock is ticking! I am 33 so I do get it. I just feel deflated with it now.

Likewise I hope it happens for you soon too!!

I’m with you OP, I have a DD who took a year to conceive. DC 2 doesn’t seem to be any easier, we did conceive after another 11 months trying but sadly lost that baby so trying again since Feb. I know it will happen for the both of us, but it’s so stressful..

are you using the usual ovulation tests, vitamins etc?

Same. We've been trying for number two since last December and have had one chemical and a MMC in that time. It sucks.

It was exactly the same for us. Tried 11 cycles for DC2, then started tests. We were waiting for the results when I got pregnant.

Don't give up hope!

@Teacaketotty sorry to hear about your loss. Yes doing the OPKs although took a break from tracking after my most recent chemical so going to try again this cycle. On all the vitamins. I could do with losing weight which I think would help but at the same time I comfort eat I think so it’s a vicious circle! I’m just hoping it’s just a matter of time for us all ❤️

@ChagSameachDoreen Thanks for sharing, that gives me hope! I know it’s not over for us but it is hard work mentally I think especially when you already have one.

@TheBirdintheCave Sorry to hear you are going through something similar. The losses make it even more difficult don’t they.

Hi just wandered if u got ya bfp op

Ahh yes I got a BFP the month after I started this thread, and I have a seven month old asleep on me right now.

@Charl881 -ahhhh that’s wonderful to hear, congratulations X

Amazing to hear congrats im on my 2ww in month 5 currently so send lots of baby dust my way lol