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first time here - my woes of secondary infertility,covid,and upcoming gynaecology appointment

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emilyhall91 · 08/07/2022 17:19

hello

me and my DH have been TTC since September 2020.
I have tested positive for covid for the first time too recently YAY
I am also on my period - ish. covid seems to be affecting my cycle?
I'm on day 33 and I've barely had a teaspoon of blood and it only comes out when I pee and not much of its own accord - sorry TMI

I have tested for pregnancy three times so that's out.
My gynaecology appointment has finally come through - I have been referred possibly due to bleeding in between periods? i think that's what the GP put it down as... I don't get it much but I'm not sure what she put it down as basically just to get me through the criteria.
I have been to the GP a few times - I just don't understand why we can't conceive a second time. my first and only pregnancy resulted in my little girl and i had a fairly straight forward vaginal birth.
I have been tracking cycles and now have been using a clearblue fertility monitor for a while after trying other ovulation test strips.
We are DTD definitely around the time of ovulation or on the day or day before - probably having sex 4 times a month in the week window or something.
Im fed up of living life in a 2 week window waiting to test or waiting for my period.
I wanted a 2 year age gap between my children and shes already surpassed three.
It beats me up inside and makes me very emotional. I have saved everything from my first pregnancy and have a spare room crammed and loft. Its so hard and i feel inferior.
I haven't changed much - I'm 30 and don't drink or smoke. My only problem is my BMI is too high at 35. but its always been high.
Im worried i have fibroids or PCOS or something. surely somethings wrong.
I have regular periods and i do ovulate.
Im just at a loss and I'm not sure how much longer this will carry on. I just want to know when. just when it will happen for me.
Its just consuming me sadly.
Ive had blood tests at different times in my cycle which were fine. Im also hoping they find something at my gynaecology appointment - I'm going for an ultrasound and internal exam. just so i know a reason.

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ASwimInAPondInTheRain · 29/07/2022 08:31

Hi OP

So sorry for your struggles. Experiencing secondary infertility myself and it's a truly sad and isolating experience.
Have you had your gynecology appointment yet? I hope it brings something that you can work through.
Sending you love and hugs. X

emilyhall91 · 01/08/2022 17:09

Yes I’ve had a internal scan on the first and review appointment and an ultrasound
he said because I was close to when my clear blue monitor said I was ovulating - I should go for a blood test on that day (22)

all clear

im waiting for the results of that this week
Progesterone levels
I’m sure there won’t be anything as I’ve already had them done once

have you managed to get any tests done

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angycandle · 14/11/2022 14:22

@emilyhall91 really sorry to hear your struggle. I am struggling too with secondary infertility and don’t know what to do as everyone is just saying try again and it will happen. That is easier said than done as I am to the point that I need to really focus to enjoy the little angel I have (and not waste time just looking at negative pregnancy tests)… Hope things are getting better for you soon!

emilyhall91 · 14/11/2022 20:32

It’s hard isn’t it. Because you know you can do it… How long have you been trying for? I have a girl born 05.2019.

im still trying. I’m using the Premom app now with their LH tests. I am now also taking my temperature every morning too and tracking it.
i was about 5 days late last month with all negative tests and no spotting etc. I was so hopeful. We dtd like 11 times. 😓

this month only dtd twice and been on holiday etc. I’ve completely lost my faith

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angycandle · 14/11/2022 20:45

We have been trying for 9 months now. Conceived first time we tried and I was so surprised and hopeful, but then miscarried... this is a bit of a deja-Vu for me as it took us 8 months to get pregnant the first time around with 2 miscarriages in between.

My DD was born in January 21 but I am 35 now so the hope that I can give her a sibling are going down...

Sending you a lot of love in this kind of lonely journey

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