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TTC for 7 months

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HRS94 · 04/07/2022 12:49

Hello

Hoping I can get a bit of advice/reassurance. My husband and I are 28 & 29 and have been TTC for 7 cycles. I know that’s not long in the scheme of things and they say around a year for conception but I can’t help feeling so deflated. I’m trying not to get caught up in things or put stress on ourselves but it’s quite disheartening seeing just one line every month. I use OPK monthly and have a very regular cycle but only 25 days each month. I have been taking folic acid and prenatal vitamins and have a healthy diet. Has anyone got any words of wisdom?

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FlyOnTheWall89 · 04/07/2022 12:57

Hi @HRS94 - I completely empathise. It's so difficult, particularly when it seems so many get pregnant first time. I was you at some point last year.

There is lots I could say, including 7 months isn't long and as the NHS say, it can take a year, even for healthy couples. However, I would say this.

I would get the ball rolling with tests around the 9/10th month mark - that is for both you and your partner. Do give it a bit more time and do make sure you're having sex consistently either side of your ovulation peak.

Initials tests should be: CD3 bloods which tests a whole heap of things, then 7 days before you period starts, you can test to check you've actually ovulated via a blood test. Your partner needs a semen analysis. These are the basics to give you at least some reassurance that there isn't something wrong with one or both of you in terms of your fertility. Even outwardly very healthy people, have all sorts going on fertility wise. I wouldn't wait longer than that just because all the tests take time to book, to get the results, to discuss with the doctor or clinic etc. Depending on how you want to word it, you could stretch the truth and do it via your GP who will want you to have tried for a year, or go privately which is relatively inexpensive but depends on your situation.

Hope you get your BFP before testing, but if not, having an action plan can really help you feel better! X

Flederjo · 04/07/2022 13:43

Hi @HRS94 you have quite a short cycle. How long is your luteal phase?

HRS94 · 04/07/2022 13:49

@Flederjo This did cross my mind too but my luteal phase is usually 15/16 days going by OPK.

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Chanel05 · 04/07/2022 14:34

Hope it happens for you soon.

My 3 pregnancies were conceived on cycle 8, cycle 8 and cycle 7.

Starsinthesky22 · 04/07/2022 18:39

Hiya! I can totally relate as I felt exactly like you did. With my son it took us 9 months but I agree it feels like forever even though it’s a perfectly normal amount of time to take. Looking back now I don’t think we were having enough regular sex. For example I’d think I was ovulating and actually I wasn’t etc. So the best advise I have for you is to make sure you’re having sex every 2 or 3 days (or more if you can!!) throughout your cycle and it is sure to happen sooner or later!

i did go to the GP around 6 months too and everything was fine with both of us. it was the GP who said… sex sex and more sex! And to be fair to him he was right as the month we upped our efforts we conceived. No one was more surprised than I was! I honestly thought I was broken! I really wish you the best of luck!

HRS94 · 05/07/2022 18:55

@FlyOnTheWall89 Thank you so much for taking the time out to reply. The internet and Dr Google can be a really dark place sometimes and I find myself in a negative place after looking too much into it so I really appreciate your lovely message.

I have a really lovely GP so called her for some advice and I had bloods taken yesterday to see if I have ovulated. I think she just wants to either put my mind and rest (which will hopefully encourage me to relax a bit) or as you say, get the ball rolling (if the results aren’t what we hope) and we can take it from there.

I know myself I need to not let it bog me down and just relax. Thank you again lovely! X

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HRS94 · 05/07/2022 18:57

@Starsinthesky22 thank you for your reply!! I completely agree. This is my first month using the clear blue OPK and it seems I’m ovulating a little earlier than the app predicted so may have missed it in the past. A lot of advice has been the same, have sex every 2 days and just try to not get bogged down in it! Thank you for your lovely comment, take care lovely x

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Longbin · 05/07/2022 20:26

Push for tests at a year if you have had no luck. Hopefully it happens for you soon though!

People kept saying it will happen, it's not long etc but it really is better to get the ball rolling sooner rather than later. I left it far too long and it put way more stress on myself than I needed to. Even after testing I did not find the cause of why I wasn't getting pregnant, and that can be quite common. It's better to rule out things early so you can move to appropriate treatment if necessary. If I could go back in time I would definitely have pushed for tests much much earlier.

Bex4567 · 30/12/2023 08:08

Anyone get there bfp after

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