To POAS or not to POAS?

[Lalla525]

Hi all,

Would like to hear some opinions on this.

My husband has very low motility and chances of me getting pregnant naturally are close to 0 (nothing is impossible, as it only takes 1 sperm, but ya know..).

I track the LH surge and have my period app (I am fairly regular). We always have sex around ovulation - as you never know, but AF comes regularly every month like clockwork.

I'm currently 5 days late (my lutheal phase is 13 days and if I ovulated correctly after the LH surge, I am currently 18dpo). I have been feeling period-like cramps the past few days (but much milder) and I had a couple of episodes of nausea with morning coffee, which for me is uncommon.

Now - I might be totally symptom spotting and all being in my head and AF will just show up eventually. However, I can not help wondering if we are one of those stories "it was impossible but it happened".

Bottom line is. I could test. And, most likely, see the negative. Or I could wait for AF to show up eventually. Both have pros and cons. The former would give a clear answer but the latter keeps me in my current bubble which is not something I will easily be able to experience again (unless my period starts being of random length).

Also, if I test negative and my AF keeps not showing up, I'll just be frustrated as I'm crampy and bloated longer than I should and for nothing.

I have no real urge to test. I'm actually quite afraid of the huge disappointment (because, let's face it, I really want to be pregnant).

Any word of wisdom?

I don't think i could not test. Maybe not tomorrow but I'd give myself a day to wait out to. I'd get a FRER though so it would be as accurate as possible.

I get why you wouldn't want to, the thought of it being positive is better than the possibility of it being negative.

Really hope it's a miracle BFP for you!

I too would test at this point. Totally understand your reasoning for not wanting to. But if it was me, I'd want to know.
I have my fingers crossed for you, and I'd love to hear the outcome 😊

Thanks for your kind words...

Still did not have the courage to test and period still not arrived. However, I bought some tests and I'm trying to decide when to take them...

Ah, I have been in exactly your situation! We didn't have confirmed fertility problems, but had been TTC for 4 years with no luck. I had stopped bothering to track anything, but knew my period was late one month. I got some cramping and a little nausea, a lot of tiredness. It took a lot to test - like you, I just didn't want to see another negative test. When I finally did it one morning, it was a complete dye stealer. I'm now 21 weeks pregnant with my little girl ❤️

Just to give you a little good news story! I have my fingers very tightly crossed for you.