Feeling like a failure

[Sarahmayo]

Hey all,
So fed up today, we have been TTC since September last year. Got pregnant in October, MMC in December, nothing since. Took at while for my body to settle down again after MC but been back on regular cycle for a few months now. Every month my body screams all symptoms of pregnancy, either that or I just convince myself it does. This month again thought I was pregnant, been needing to pee more, waking in the night for loo, really tender boobs for past 2 weeks, felt very tired, not sure what's going on with me. I don't track my ovulation because I can never get the hang of it but did a test yesterday which was negative. Now laying in bed and feel cramping so pretty sure AF will arrive tomorrow, right on time. Just feeling a bit down, feel like a failure every time AF comes. DH was destroyed by miscarriage and is desperate to me a Dad. We DTD everyday so can't be missing ovulation.
Anyone else just feeling a bit down?

Oh you poor thing 😣 Unfortunately all of the symptoms you describe are the same as that of AF coming, because your body prepares for pregnancy regardless. General rule of thumb is that you're not out until AF shows up, so no flow means there is still hope. I know what you mean about feeling like a failure and I can absolutely relate on account of your DH as mine feels the same way. TTC is a tough journey. You're definitely not alone in this xx

@SarahShorty thank you for your reply. I know the symptoms are similar I guess I just convince myself every month this is the month and end up feeling disappointed.
It's nice to know I'm not alone, I know there are lots of women in the same position and worse and I feel for everyone
TTC is just so hard
I hope you get your BFP soon.
Your right never out until AF comes but I'm pretty sure mine will arrive tomorrow xx

@Sarahmayo sorry no advice but also been trying since September and also very fed up. I hope we both have some luck soon.

It took me 9 months to conceive my first, so keep going.
And DTD every day is too much IMO, every other day is enough.

Sorry to be practical but might be worth going to GP to get on the fertility pathway. It starts with basic tests etc and not like doing that would stop you conceiving naturally. Find out the criteria where you are for how long you have to have been trying and tell them that. Doctors were convinced I would get pregnant on my own even while on the ivf pathway but I didn't and depending how old you are you may not have time to waste on waiting lists if you don't get on one early.

@Charl881 Thank you, I hope that you get your BFP soon

@KangarooKenny thank you. I know it can take some time and I'm ok with that mostly, just sometimes I have a few down days. We have always DTD everyday, it's not really about TTC it's just how we are normally anyway

@milkmilkeverywhere thank you. We have had some tests already, blood tests and private scan, everything came back as normal. I am 40 so could well be age related. Unfortunately we don't qualify for fertility treatment because I already have daughters. My husband doesn't have any children of his own and we wanted one together

Still no news AF hasn't shown up yet but still feel like it's on the way

Yup and then it gets even worse when you fail at IVF too… no answers, it just sucks.

Can you try and get a hang of the tracking ovulation?

@Phrenologistsfinger it certainly does suck, a tough journey for so many people. I feel for everyone who struggles and send all my best wishes

@Tothepoint99 I could try I guess, it's just something I have never been able to get the hang of. When I start reading about it seems so confusing, I probably sound stupid but I've read that you should test throughout the day, I couldn't do this because of my job. All I've ever done is tried to test in the mornings and never had a positive result but I know I ovulate because I got pregnant before

Hi, how is everyone getting on?
I finally got my BFP today after 9 months of TTC after MMC. I'm nervous and hoping that we have better luck this time but also super excited too 🙂🙂