When to start trying

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I’m just curious how others made the decision. I’ve seen people here saying they’re going to try from July or august or whatever but why not now?

i was planning TTC in January because after that would be the most ‘convenient’ time for me to be pregnant. But also I’m excited and I’m wondering if it’s even worth waiting. Will we just make it work anyway. And obviously we could have difficulty getting pregnant so is it better to just get on with it so to speak, sooner rather than later.

im 31. We get married end of next month, so I’d definitely like to wait until after that anyway.
just wondering how other people chose the right time.

Ideally we would love to wait a year or so but with my age (37) we don’t want to risk it when we know we definitely want a child together

Someone once said to me start at the earliest time you think you would want a child. So if you know you could manage and be happy with a child in nine months time start now. That way if it takes a few months (which is normal) then it won’t be an issue.

If you know that you can’t handle a baby for whatever reason before Sept 2023 then don’t start trying until January.

It can happen on the first cycle so you need to be ready to have a baby in nine months. But also it can easily take a year or two with no issues so just be prepared that trying at the start of next year doesn’t mean you’ll have a baby by the end of 2023.

Whenever you decide to start it will be exciting though so good luck and enjoy the journey!

I wanted to establish my career further and enjoy travel etc before starting a family . My husband wanted to start trying directly right after we married . We did try for a few months after we got married but I got a promotion at work and we decided to give it a year before trying again . It wasn’t just about the promotion . We had a bunch of huge trips booked as well and my best friend was getting married abroad at the end of the year . I realised that it was going to be a full on year . After that year I ended up getting pregnant our first month trying but miscarried. I got pregnant with our son 4-5 months after that . That was 4 years ago .

One of my best friends has a similar story to mine but she’s still trying 4 years later .

I think I’m scared I’ll put it off until next year, then not be able to (i do have some health issues) And it would be better to find that out sooner rather than later.
Or for it to not be the case, i get pregnant and I’ll be relieved and can let go of that worry and fear.
but it really would be difficult this year.

good luck @allgoodthings84
I’m sorry to hear about your miscarriage @IwaswhoIam thank you for sharing your story

We started trying on the basis that it would take a while as I was told I would need help to conceive and got pregnant first try. Was really freaked out for a bit but we were already in a place where a baby in 9 months time would be fine.

Second time round we started trying (again assuming it would take a while and first time was a fluke). I fell pregnant again right away. But that ended in a loss and 2 years later we have had 5 losses and still no closer to having our second.

So what I'm saying is you just don't know. You could fall the first time or you could still be here in 2 years time wondering if it will happen. No one can really tell you until you start trying.

Don't start trying before you are ready or if it would be absolutely disastrous if you fell pregnant. If you aren't ready now then perhaps spend some months getting to know your cycle and getting as healthy as possible. Take pre-conception vitamins, depending on what the health issues are could these be addressed or is it worth speaking to your doctor for some tests to check fertility? To be honest unless you have an understanding doctor they may not do anything until you try for a while but if funds allow you could pay for a fertility check up.