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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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Scared I'm never going to be able to have another baby

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Tomlettegregg · 09/06/2022 06:18

Firstly I know how lucky I am. Conceived after 2 months with our first and without tracking ovulation beyond using an app.

We've been trying for our 2nd for 6 months and despite 2 late periods there's been no success.

Doctor insists there's no reason to worry and to be patient. Track ovulation with the sticks and just continue having sex every other day during fertile period. Eat healthily, avoid alcohol and exercise.

Is there anything else we can do? I have prenatal vitamins but not sure what else. I just have this horrible feeling it won't happen. Obviously it's not the end of the world. Our daughter is the best and I know how lucky we are.

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passport123 · 09/06/2022 06:19

How old are you?

Sponge19 · 09/06/2022 06:22

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Tomlettegregg · 09/06/2022 09:13

31

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Flederjo · 09/06/2022 09:47

I see Sponge19's message was deleted, but she was quite right. 6 months is well within a normal TTC time frame, OP.

Janey3090 · 09/06/2022 10:33

Hi, I totally understand how TTC can feel completely overwhelming and each month can feel so gutting. 6 months though is still within a normal timeframe - the NHS website states that it can easily take a fertile couple a year to fall pregnant, and can even take up to two years. Maybe if nothing has happened by the end of this year push your GP for tests just to double check?

Just for context I'm 31 as well and currently pregnant with my first but it took me 17 months to fall pregnant, so I fell into the 1-2 year category. Hang on in there, TTC and staying positive is really tough so be kind to yourself. It sounds like you are doing everything right with the vitamins and ovulation tracking xx

elociN5 · 09/06/2022 10:58

Your worry is totally understandable and very real to you even though 6m is not a long time in terms of average fertile couple in their 30s.
it took me over a year to conceive my 1st in my early 20s and then I lost him to stillbirth at nearly full term and a mc followed a few months later. I was very lucky to fall pr the month after mc and my eldest surviving son is now 18. My youngest son took some trying too, however I was already 40 and he was my 6th child and 8th pr as I had a loss at 9w weeks and then it took 6 months to get pregnant with him and it happened when I pretty much gave up thinking I was too old, lucky to have my 2 surviving sons and 2 daughters and just left the idea well alone.

I am sorry for such a long post, I have Asperger's and succinctness is not my forte.
what I am trying to say is that maybe trying too hard and thinking about it doesn't help. Easier said than done but try and enjoy your daughter and take your mind off ttc, have some fun (I don't mean start drinking etc)
lots of baby dust to you!

Angie2018 · 09/06/2022 13:31

Janey3090 · 09/06/2022 10:33

Hi, I totally understand how TTC can feel completely overwhelming and each month can feel so gutting. 6 months though is still within a normal timeframe - the NHS website states that it can easily take a fertile couple a year to fall pregnant, and can even take up to two years. Maybe if nothing has happened by the end of this year push your GP for tests just to double check?

Just for context I'm 31 as well and currently pregnant with my first but it took me 17 months to fall pregnant, so I fell into the 1-2 year category. Hang on in there, TTC and staying positive is really tough so be kind to yourself. It sounds like you are doing everything right with the vitamins and ovulation tracking xx

This has really helped me today. I am just about to enter cycle 6, I'm 33 and trying for our first baby. It's so hard to stay positive but really reassuring you conceived at 17 months x

Novella12 · 09/06/2022 15:15

It took us 4 years! By the time I conceived, we had pretty much given up - we ditched the ovulation tracking and pre period testing (it was causing so much stress and anxiety). The month I conceived I didn't test until I was almost 6 weeks, that's how lax my tracking was! But here I am, 18 weeks pregnant and all going well. I'm 34 btw.

This isn't meant to alarm you by the way - just wanted to share that 6 months definitely doesn't mean it won't ever happen! But perhaps consider a more relaxed approach for a few months, for your own mental health and happiness

madeleine85 · 09/06/2022 20:51

Op, you aren't old and you have a history of pregnancy, so those are great things in your favour. I am a few years up on you, and asked my doctor the same question and they said that if you have already conceived without issue, chances are that it will happen again successfully. I am currently pregnant with child #2, and things that helped me (that I am pretty sure of) were ovulation tests to know when peaking/track cycle, taking COQ10 to aid egg health, can take up to 3 months to take effect, but I am sure it helped, and I think the biggest thing was use swimmer friendly lube if any and a menstrual cup to keep the swimmers in. I used preseed and a cup which I put in after DTD. The month that I did those 2 together, it worked and I think we only had one lucky night that cycle. Good luck

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Tomlettegregg · 09/06/2022 23:27

Thanks everyone. I know 6 months is a very reasonable time frame and the doctor has said they wouldn't refer for further testing till 1 year.

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