Age 34 TTC after 2 recent miscarriages, anyone in similar situation

[amazinggrace1]

Hi

Im new to the site (joined tonight)

I have no children

I had a miscarriage at 7 weeks in October. 4 weeks later discovered i was pregnant again, but 2 days after BFP i miscarried again. Thought maybe it was too soon for my body to be pregnant again, but have read that it doesn't mean you will have a miscarriage if you get pregnant straight away after MC.

I have just had AF and my DP and i are now trying again. Im concerned that if i get PG again this will also end in Miscarriage.

Im 34 and feel like time is running out (my DP is 40, and already feels he is too old to be a Dad).

Im feeling a bit desperate about TTC, and don't want to talk to my friends about it cos they all conceived without any problems, so they dont understand how i feel

Welcome to Mumsnet.

I had two miscariages but now have two boys!! Im not a medical person so cant give you advice in that way, but I kinda of see it that my body needed a few attempts to know what it need to do, hang in there Im sure it will happen.

FOr you info, when I miscarried I was told to wait until I had one AF before I tried again and voila it happened!!

Good luckx

So sorry Grace, but do hop over to the thread that Jules has given you. I am on there with lots of others who have gone thro the heartache of m/c.

It is absolultey awfull to go thro 1 MC but to go thro a second really puts doubt in your mind as to what the hell is going on. I think I am about to have my 3rd MC in 7 months so you can imagine my state of mind.

What you could do is hold off TTC and get refered by GP to private hosp for testing. They carry out tests and if find something wrong refer you back to HNS for treatment. We decided to do this but stupidly kept on TTC so although I have appointment this month I am PG . As I think I will lose it I will now be able to go thro NHS for tests so have cancelled the appointment. But I should have just waited and I might have been able to avoid this 3rd MC.

Hope to see you on the other thread soon x

Hi Grace, so sorry to hear what you're going through. Come on over to the mc avengers and you will find yourself a life line. Sorry you're having to join us. We WILL all get there in the end xx

Welcome to mumsnet AmazingGrace, I am sorry to hear of your miscarriages
You have come to the right place, everyone is so supportive here in conception (and I am sure in the wider community of MN).
Hope to see you on other threads, there is a wealth of information and support on a variety of threads.

Hi, AmazingGrace! Come over to the mc avengers thread! I'm in a similar position to you this cycle (although I have one DD already). You will be made very welcome!!

(Btw I can identify on the 'time running out' worries - I'm 37 - but my hospital told me I'm a (and I quote) 'spring chicken' at 37. I wasn't convinced so did an over-the-counter ovarian reserve test and was much reassured. If you're worried, you could ask your GP for the same thing I think? Or get it from Boots...)

Anyway - am rambling. Welcome to Mumsnet!

Hiya

I just wanted to say so sorry for your losses - i have been there myself and i know how hard it is. I lost my precious ivf baby in 2006 and have since gone on to have a son through ivf - you will get there - dont give up hope xxx

Hi Amazing grace,

Just a quick note to let you know your not alone. I am nearly 35 & have been ttc for years.

Got 1st BFP in Summer and a week after announcement to family, had m/c.

Got 2nd BFP in November and this too has too has ended in m/c.

Both times we ended up under the care and supervision of hospital who have assured me that there is still time!

Hi there. Slightly different situation to you, but some similarities, so thought I'd come and offer you some solidarity / hope!

I'm 30 and have an almost 3 yr old son, but have been ttc no.2 for a while now without much luck. Also had a m/c at 7 weeks in October, which was very upsetting.

I know it won't make any difference to the loss you already feel, but early miscarriage is incredibly common and doesn't necessarily mean anything in terms of your chances of going on to have a perfectly normal and happy pregnancy in the future. I think something like 1 in 5 pregnancies are miscarried before 12 weeks (think that's the statistic?) and many of them are very early m/c like your 2nd m/c, which unless you are ttc you may miss altogether and just think it's a period. So definitely no need for you to lose hope yet!

Also, 34 is not old! God, no! There are loads of women on MN who didn't have their first child until over 40. Ok, so we all know your fertility declines as you get older blah blah....but honestly, at 34 yrs old you aren't exactly a geriatric mum :-) Ditto to your partner. My DH was 40 when our son was born, and he puts plenty of the younger dads to shame, I tell you. He thought he was 'too old to change' and was worried about the effect fatherhood would have on his bachelor-esque lifestyle of 'work hard, play hard', but he has adapted very well and loves being a dad. He's dying to be a dad again, actually!

So...anyway..I know it's different ttc your first than subsequent children, but I at least partially understand what you are going through :-) MN is a great place for support, advice and general obssessive ttc chitchat, too!

Hello Grace

I'm so sorry for your losses. I'm also ttc my first, although have only had the one mc (at 9 weeks). I'm 35 and I also know the feeling of time running out. You've come tp the right place for support and the ttc after mc thread is very welcoming.