Has anyone got a deadline?

[ilovemycat22]

I conceived my first in 3 months. I've now been trying for my second for 10 months and I always said I wouldn't try longer for a year cause of the mental stress it causes me and I get so obsessed. Now I'm going into month 10 I don't think I will stop at a year but should I give myself a cut off date? Has anyone done this? There's so many things I want to plan for the future such as holidays and I just can't incase I get pregnant. I just can't keep going through this every month but equally I desperately want another baby

Hi Iv said I'm giving it until I turn 40 in December this year. Had a miscarriage in April so praying for our rainbow 🌈 baby x

We said we would try until my 40th birthday.
It gave us about a year and a half to play with.

Number 1 happened first month,number 2 around 6 months.

Number 3 didn't happen....

A week after my 40th when we had accepted it wasn't happening we realised we must have fallen just around my birthday.
Obviously given that we had agreed to stop trying it felt like it a really meant to be.

But we lost that baby in November.

It's been so difficult to get over, especially with it being our last chance.

Having said that my absolute regular as clockwork cycle was 5 days late this month so as much as I tried to not get excited about it I did think we had been caught. 😔

OP, can you keep trying but not put your life on hold so much? Plan a holiday that you could still go on if pregnant (or that offers a full refund if you cancel).

Yep, I have until January next year as I don't want to be any older than 37 when I have my second. Unfortunately we had a miscarriage in March which meant we lost two months x__x

We gave ourselves a cut off of DS starting school/him turning 5/me turning 35. We did IVF last year which failed and we'd just paid for a frozen transfer and I fell pregnant naturally very unexpectedly after absolutely nothing for 2.5 years.

Wow @YouBoggleMyMind that's amazing! :D Congratulations!

Thank you @TheBirdintheCave - I literally don't know how it happened (I mean, I know how it happened 😉😂) as the only time we'd had sex was Christmas Day which was 5 days before unexpected ovulation...
I have severe PCOS and my DS is a clomid baby who took nearly 3 years to conceive. All the timed sex, metformin, clomid, letrozole and then IVF didn't work and then bam, one Christmas shag later and here we are! DD due in September! 🤷🏼‍♀️🤷🏼‍♀️

Yes my cut off point is January - my 43rd birthday

Do you mind if I ask -
Do you already have children? And how long have you been trying? 💓

I have a 17 and 15yr old DD from a previous relationship. We’ve been trying officially since Feb, although had a MC in December at around 6weeks.

with my other pregnancies I conceived straight away…..but this time isnt happening !

Sounds like we are in a similar situation.

Or were. 😔

Big hugs. I hope you get your BFP soon.

Sort of.

I have two DDs (8y and 20m) and DH and I are undecided on whether to have a third. We have said that if we aren’t decided or in the right position to have a third by my 30th birthday (I’m 28), we won’t have any more. I had DD1 at 19 (very nearly 20) and DD2 at 26. Our 20s have been taken up with babies and young children so we would like some time whilst still young enough to just be adults.

A huge part of me really wants another one and I can picture us with 3 but DD2 is a non-sleeping monster and she spends her whole time running around so…