How do you deal with the disappointment?

[Lucy304]

Just that really.

AF arrived with a bang this morning, meaning we are now going into cycle 11 of ttc.

Every single month I spot a new 'symptom' or two which convinces me that this is the lucky month, only for it not to be.

We're incredibly blessed to have a 2 yo DD already. She was conceived quickly, and I now realise how lucky we were. But it's just not happening this time and I am feeling very down today.

Any words of advice, support, success stories or positivity would be gratefully received.

Thank you x

Another one who could have written this exact post. Age gap with my four year old on top of age (38) starting to really stress me out. Feeing very subdued today.

We should form a support group @pooeylouie !

Am 10dpo today and woke up with night sweats last night, also had some light brown spotting yesterday and today. It’s the grey area of symptoms for me - every time I look them up it’s ‘could be early pregnancy, could be PMS’, it’s exhausting. Husband and I are waiting for our last appt for pre fertility referral tests but NHS times are so long. Anyone have experience of what happens once you’ve been referred?
Wishing all you ladies luck x

@AP77 i think it depends on what they find “wrong”. They didn’t find anything for us so referred me for an HSG and said if that was clear then to keep trying until October as apparently it can take up to two years (finding that hard to believe!!).

How long have you been trying?

I get night sweats around my period and I used to be really paranoid when they started a couple of years ago. I was convinced I was perimenopausal but since then I’ve met so many people who get them! X