TTC after MC

[MrsH44]

Sadly I lost my pregnancy in March this year and my life really has been turned upside down. I think I read every single article online about conceiving after a MC- I read that you are more fertile and have a higher success rate and naively thought I would just fall pregnant straight away (which I haven’t)
I am doing everything I’m meant to on paper no alcohol, pre vitamins, sex every second day of my fertile window, LH strips temp every day I’ve now convinced myself I have some underlying health condition and there’s something wrong with me 😅 People will tell me to relax and it will happen and all the usual lines people tell you but it is taking over my life I can’t commit to future plans because got forbid I’m ovulating that day (or pregnant 🤞)
before I lost my baby I was never this obsessed we tried for a while but I had faith and it happened but this time It’s all I think about every second of the day.

So sorry to hear about your previous loss @MrsH44. For some comfort, I have felt and breathed every little feeling you have described in your original post. I had a MMC in October 2021 and it turned my life upside down - I naively thought it would never happen to me but it did.

January fell pregnant again and a week later miscarried again. Became OBSESSED with doing “everything right” every vitamin, cutting alcohol / caffeine , timing ovulation and putting life on hold. Unfortunately this took a bit of toll on my relationship and mentally I wasn’t coping.

In April of this year, after much persuasion I agreed to ditch the ovulation tests, enjoy my “life”…. have a few too many wines, had a fabulous Easter weekend with my OH and then bang comes my late period on the 1st of May. Currently 6 weeks pregnant and absolutely terrified - but I hope this post does give you a bit of hope. You have to carry on believing, but you also have to be kind to yourself because you can’t put life on hold. I don’t know how long you have been trying for, but the fortune side is that you were able to get pregnant (I know this doesn’t help now) but my GP said that is half the job complete. I can honestly say April was the best month for me in terms my emotional well being.

There are options to pay for private tests if you are genuinely concerned, which may put your mind at rest. Or may create more stress. My other advice is to stay off Google! And book a holiday! X

Thank you so much @Lifeafterloss22

I feel like I needed to read that 🤍 my thoughts are consumed by my baby every minute of the day and I just cannot wait to feel that joy again of seeing those two lines.

I am so happy for you and your OH I love hearing stories like this. Thank you for taking the time to reply 🤍

I understand. I’m TTC after an ectopic pregnancy.

Im currently 7dpo. Assuming I’m not pregnant this cycle, for the next cycle I’ll be banning myself from googling anything to do with early pregnancy and I’m not going to use OPKs. Both these things I have found contribute to the obsession for me.

Im going to aim for DTD every other day for a week or so around the middle of my cycle and that’s it!

All the best, I hope things feel easier soon x

@WednesdayStar4

i am going to do the same. When I fell pregnant the first time I was so relaxed and enjoying my life.. I need to be in the same mind set for it to happen again and right now I am far from relaxed it’s on my mind every second of the day.

I'm so sorry for your loss, sending you lots of love x

Thank you.

Lots of love back at you, And sorry for your loss too. It’s so hard but I think these things just take time - we’ll get there!