Hi all you lovely people, I’m at bit at a loss at the moment. We’ve been trying for a year and a bit now and Ive had two miscarriages in the meantime (7 weeks and 5 weeks). Sucks but well within the statistics so we just decided to keep trying and have fun with it. My husband (39) has sometimes had issues staying erect but never to the point where this was an issue ie we always had fun with it and clearly managed to have sex successful (I did get pregnant twice). Three months ago we had amazing sex for a few weeks prior to me ovulation and then when we got closer to ovulating he couldn’t stay hard / get an erection anymore. To me, that sounded like performance anxiety and just stress so I tried to give him space and said we don’t have to try all the time and that it’s fine. Two months down the line, he’s still struggling with ED but hasn’t done anything about it. He talked to the GP about something else and it was mentioned on the side, and he’s talked to his therapist about it a little. He’s convinced it’s a physical thing ie not due to stress. So instead of seeing a doctor to investigate or trying to de-stress (he is also super stressed at work, about some family things as well as about trying to conceive) he just went to buy some Viagra. This is a man who does not like taking medicin!
Having two miscarriages sucked but I was somehow ok with continuing to try and accepting that we can’t control that. But this is different. It’s making our sex life super complicated and conceiving basically impossible and that makes me so sad.
Not sure what I’m asking, but maybe you have some words of advice? What would you recommend to me/him?
lots of love
R