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Don't lose hope!

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hopefully2021 · 23/04/2022 14:34

Just coming on to give hope to those who need it right now - me & DH have been TTC for nearly 2 years (started June 2020) and I have just got my first positive today - I know we've got a long way to go and I'm already feeling so anxious wondering if everything is okay but its a major breakthrough for me. I was due to start IVF this July and had convinced myself that IVF would be the only way I would get a baby - so please if your going through something similar, please stay positive and remain hopeful xxx

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Kitty901 · 23/04/2022 14:51

Congratulations!!! 😍 wishing you a healthy pregnancy! It is the most amazing feeling on the world!

Graceybaby · 23/04/2022 15:08

Congratulations 🎉 🥳 This is so inspiring, hoping for a healthy and happy pregnancy for you xxxxx

Presently14 · 23/04/2022 15:11

Congratulations @hopefully2021! Amazing. Crossing my fingers for you that it all goes smoothly xx

Arewethebadguys · 23/04/2022 15:12

Massive congratulations!! Lots of us have been where you are . . . wondering if it will ever happen . . . and suddenly that second line changes your whole world! You've made my day OP! Wishing you a safe, healthy pregnancy and all the joys it brings 🎉

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hopefully2021 · 23/04/2022 15:15

Thank you everyone, I am still in complete shock as I can't get my head around how its just happened after so long of trying! Will definately be my best christmas yet this year if all goes well xxxx

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Kitty901 · 23/04/2022 16:07

I know how you feel, i felt like that when i found out i was pregnant with our first although we were trying 6 months, couldn't believe it and kept taking test thinking it can't really be true and kept crying from happiness 🤣 currently ttc 2nd, i am sure i would be the same panic!!😍

BritInNZ · 24/04/2022 23:25

This was just what I needed to see today - thank you! We're 15 months into TTC and will start IVF at the start of 2023 if nothing has happened by then. Best of luck - I imagine your anxiety is through the roof! Infertility really changes us as people, but you'll appreciate it all the more.

Ellie5341 · 24/04/2022 23:28

Amazing, congratulations!

Did you do anything new/ different this cycle?

Neverreturntoathread · 24/04/2022 23:37

I’m happy for you OP. I really am. But for those of us who don’t manage to conceive - and I’ve been having unprotected sex without conceiving for ten years now, and IVF was a big flop - hope is actually the most painful, poisonous thing. Healing can’t start until acceptance occurs and hope destroys acceptance over and over again.

I hate hope and I really really hate all the well meaning “baby dust” “have you tried acupuncture / going on holiday” comments.

Congratulations, but maybe don’t shout about hope quite as much.

Graceybaby · 25/04/2022 06:25

@Neverreturntoathread There's a big difference between 2 years and 10 years.. yes after 10 years you would have to accept that its likely its never going to happen but even still.. we are human, there would always be a tiny bit of you that 'hoped' unfortunately... even if it is 'poisonous'

Your post was completely unnecessary.. Sorry OP x

Novella12 · 25/04/2022 06:31

Congratulations! How wonderful

LondonladyTTC · 25/04/2022 07:08

Congratulations @hopefully2021 , so delighted to see this having been on many conception threads together discussing fertility checks etc. Wishing you a very healthy and exciting 9 months!

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hopefully2021 · 25/04/2022 07:10

Thank you @LondonladyTTC I'm in complete shock that it has just happened after all this time - I think I've taken about 10 tests lol!
How are you getting on?xxx

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LondonladyTTC · 25/04/2022 07:43

I'm getting on well thanks, we had IVF in Jan/ Feb which was successful, and baby is due on 21 October. Just feel I am starting to relax now at 14 weeks. The first trimester is quite worrying but just take care of yourself and count every milestone as a win.

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hopefully2021 · 25/04/2022 11:56

@LondonladyTTC OMG that is amazing - congrats!! 😍How did you cope with the first trimester? I'm getting so much anxiety already, trying to symptom spot continuously. Can I ask what symptoms you had at the beginning? I'm about 6 weeks but all I've had is sense of smell is much stronger and I was getting quite dull like cramps but these seem to have gone today
I've booked a private early scan for 7+4 but I don't know I'm going to get through the next 2ish weeks! My close friend had a missed miscarriage last year so all I keep thinking is about that...

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LondonladyTTC · 25/04/2022 15:48

Thank you! My main symptom was extreme tiredness. I have had no sickness at all. I had so much anxiety as well and for the first week or so of knowing I felt like my period was about to start so constantly expected it to be over.
I had a scan at 7+2 and then 9 weeks just to calm the nerves a bit. This might not help some people so ignore if makes your anxiety worse but I also looked at the miscarriage probability statistics datayze.com/miscarriage-chart every day to reassure myself that the chances of anything going wrong were dropping in the beginning by a percent a day. I found it oddly reassuring but that obsessive approach didn't help my husband which is why I say may not help others!... I had lots of dull cramping too, totally normal so not to worry about that.
Sorry to hear about your friend, that must have been totally heartbreaking for her.

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hopefully2021 · 25/04/2022 17:18

Thats interesting @LondonladyTTC , I felt like I was going to come on my period for over a week so I didn't even think about testing until I was 2 weeks late! I'm already thinking about having 2 private scans before the NHS one as I just cant relax, my friend had a scan at 7 weeks which was all fine but then was told about the missed miscarriage at her NHS 12 week scan so I am petrified the same will happen to me 😐
Thank you for the miscarriage chart, I feel the same about it being reassuring don't worry I will be checking it daily now 😂
When did you break your news to family & friends by the way? Did you wait until the 12 week scan?xxx

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LondonladyTTC · 25/04/2022 17:32

I felt like the scans before the NHS really helped my anxiety so if you can afford it I would definitely recommend it! I told my parents at 9+2 as it was my mums birthday and we wouldn't see them for ages afterwards (primary reason for second scan) and then others after 12 week scan. Have still only told a few select people as work don't know yet. Just remembered that I also had an NIPT test done at 10+5 which involved a quick scan so actually had three! Blush
Honestly so happy for you and keeping my fingers crossed all goes well. We must keep in touch!

LondonladyTTC · 25/04/2022 17:32

I felt like the scans before the NHS really helped my anxiety so if you can afford it I would definitely recommend it! I told my parents at 9+2 as it was my mums birthday and we wouldn't see them for ages afterwards (primary reason for second scan) and then others after 12 week scan. Have still only told a few select people as work don't know yet. Just remembered that I also had an NIPT test done at 10+5 which involved a quick scan so actually had three! Blush
Honestly so happy for you and keeping my fingers crossed all goes well. We must keep in touch!

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hopefully2021 · 26/04/2022 07:43

Thank you @LondonladyTTC , it's so good to be able to get some advice 😀I hope everything goes well for you too - catch up soon xxx

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