Anybody else been trying for 10+ months?

[L0ts]

Today marks CD1 of cycle 10 and I can’t help but feel incredibly discouraged, in my heart I feel as though I know it just wont ever happen for us.

We have been trying for our second baby since last September, we had one CP on the second cycle and since then absolutely nothing. I feel we do everything right and have tried everything possible.

We both take all the right vitamins, we’re both relatively young (29 and 27), we don’t drink or smoke, we’ve tried SMEP, I use OPKs (cheapies and Clear Blue Digital), I have regular cycles (26-28 days long), I charted my BBT the first 4/5 months until stopping because it just stressed me out too much, each time ovulation was confirmed. This last cycle we tried Preseed and I really thought it would work it’s magic but it hasn’t.

Our son did take 10 months to conceive but our lives were very different back then. My partner had a stressful job, we still lived with my parents in a very isolated area so never saw any friends or other family, I was also quite ill for a few months too. It was a very tough time in our lives.

I really didn’t think it would take this long again now we’re both happy with our lives, have our own home in the place where we both grew up around our friends.. Also the fact that we already have one child.

I’m just baffled as to why it’s not working! I’m really depressed over it today 😔

Hi @L0ts yep me, it's crap isn't it. I've been pregnant twice but have no living children, one miscarriage and one tfmr 😞 it's been 17 months since we officially started trying and this is month 7 since our tfmr.

Currently everyone around me is pregnant or just had a baby and feeling like the odd one out, bloody horrible when it's all you want.

I'm 10dpo and had a few indents on cheapies this month which was crap as really thought it would be our month!

Me too currently in 2ww on cycle 10 for our first baby we've tried vitamins, opk cheapies and clear blue digital, tried relaxing and not trying or tracking and so far nothing. I was on the pill for 8 years and my cycles have been roughly 25-27 days since my first month off the pill.This cycle is our first time trying SMEP but already feeling very deflated and like it hasnt worked (I know it would be too early to tell yet but don't like getting my hopes up after 10 months+). This month has hit harder with their being several pregnancy announcements at work in the last 2 weeks too, hoping it'll be our month soon.

Yes, 1,5 years trying for number 2 and nothing. Feeling very low and sad for myself and my daughter who would love a sibling. Doing Acupuncture as well. I wish I get that bfp…

@L0ts I was ttc my second…took 11 cycles to get a BFP which I got beginning of March! Previously I’d got pregnant with other pregnancies on cycle 1 and cycle 7. So was longer for us this time round although we are 4 years/5 older than we were back then.

unfortunately this has ended in mmc. So I am back to the start again 😫
but just to give you some hope. It’s disheartening and felt like well must be something wrong. There wasn’t. We did fall pregnant within the normal year timeframe.

i am sure hoping it doesn’t take as long again though to fall 😏😏

Almost 3 years. One chemical, one MMC two TFMRs at 21+4w and 15w.

It's shit.

Its not always quick and easy. 12 yrs TTC here. 1 TFRM, 2 MCs and 2 rounds of IVF. No cause for sub-fertility found and no living children. I used a re-usable saliva OPK, as got fed up with the urine ones. I could tell when fertile without them though. Have you read 'It starts with an egg' or add lycopene supplements for DH?

We tried for over a year for number 3. We agreed it was time to give up...then found out we were already pregnant...conceived on my birthday. Best present ever....
Unfortunately we lost that baby last November as little one's heart stopped beating.

Devastated because it truly felt like it was meant to be the way it happened as we had already given up hope.

I don't understand what went wrong, I reduced coffee intake to one cup a day, quit drinking, ate healthy, took 5mg folic every day....

We would have had our baby next month and I can't stop thinking about it. But our friends just announced they are pregnant too.

I am so sorry for all of you who have tried a long time. I hope that all of you who are still trying get to be a Mama soon 💕

We've been TTC our first baby for 15 months. It's hands down the hardest thing I have ever gone through. I have always been very resilient but now I feel constantly sad and I can't stop thinking about it, no matter how hard I try.

It's so tough. Best of luck.

Always sworn I’d update any threads I started because it’s a pet hate of mine coming across old threads during my late night googling sessions with no update at the end.

So for anybody reading this in the future, 10th cycle and I have my BFP!! I’m still incredibly anxious and probably will be for the next 9 months but here we go! I got my positive on a digital today and the lines seem to be progressing nicely 🥰❤️

Best of luck to anybody ttc! xxx

Congratulations! I got my bfp too last month on my 10th cycle after feeling hopeless. The endless worrying has begun but trying to remember to enjoy it. Congratulations again!

This is so lovely!

@X96em Congratulations!! 😍

Oh the worrying has already begun, I’m terrified, I haven’t missed a period yet, it’s due on Monday and I think until I officially miss it I won’t believe it’s fully happening 😂

I had given up too, this cycle we barely dtd, I only took one OPK and then proceeded to do everything you shouldn’t do during the tww! Thought for sure I was out!

I have a lovely dark line on my FRER this morning, so I’m happy things are progressing!

@L0ts sorry for the delayed reply...how are you doing?
We were the same, the cycle we fell pregnant we only dtd one weekend out of the whole month so I was convinced I wasn't pregnant until after my missed period but I did have some implantation bleeding around the time it was due so even then I didn't quite believe it and kept testing until it sank in but I guess we got lucky.

Congratulations again, I hope all is well