How to not be terrified of MC happening again

[andpeggy1]

So today I got my first BFP since my early miscarriage in December last year.

Ive been spotting on and off for the past week and fully expected to come on my period this morning. I've not had the normal cramps so decided to take a test. And it's come up a BFP.

Course I'm really happy about this, but my split second of joy was completely crushed with omg what if this happens again? My last mc happened a few hours after I got my BFP and I think I'm just funny convinced it will happen again.

I'm trying to be calm and positive and all what will be will be, but yea how do others cope that have been in my situation. Would be really good to talk to some others x

Hi lovely I have 2 children a 22 year old and a 11 year old I've just turned 40 and I've been trying for 3 years and I'm on miscarriage 11 Im 6 weeks 3 days pregnant with my 12th and it does not get any easier I'm afraid lovely I'm constantly testing 2/3times daily checking my hcg.. My first loss was at 13 weeks and ended up hospitalised after that it's just been chemicals I have severe inflammation of the womb being treated for it on daily injections and steroids I have. A scan tomorrow morning and I'm dreading it I'm going alone as I cannot face the sad faces of others it it's bad news... My only advice would be don't try to fight it the worry it's a natural thing to worry about having miscarriages takes all the joy of having a baby away it's so sad. Be kind to yourself and remember lots of women go on to have there rainbow babies and worrying does not change anything I'm afraid so allow yourself to feel this way I'm here to answer any questions xx

Hi OP. Congratulations on your BFP!!

I understand how you feel. I lost my first at 11 weeks and was subsequently terrified throughout my second pregnancy (and third, to a lesser degree). I’ve now got two gorgeous girls who are currently tearing round the house resisting bedtime

It is really tough to shake off the fear. Best advice I have is to try and acknowledge it, then set it aside and make yourself think of other things. Another thing that helped me was to remember that there was absolutely nothing I had done wrong the first time so therefore nothing I could do to change what happened then or would happen next. Distraction was my friend. Stay busy, look after myself etc. And if at all possible, relax!

Best of luck!