Cycle 10... How to cope?

[RPTTC]

I don't want this to come across as melodramatic but how does everyone cope with the constant negative tests and periods after trying for months on end??

10 months isn't even THAT long compared to some people but every month I'm riddled with anxiety around ovulation and the two week wait, then overcome with depression for the next two weeks when my period arrives

I'm trying to take solace in the fact that God has a plan for us, and that we'll be blessed when the time is right, and I'm trying to look on the bright side (this means we have another opportunity to make sure my tracking is correct/ my cycle is regular/ we have another month's worth of savings in the account etc...) but this is without a doubt the hardest thing I've ever been through

Any advice?

It's so difficult isn't it @RPTTC. It's really hard and there's no real way of making it any easier. Just try to hold onto that excitement that maybe, this month will be the month that you are successful. You need to have hope otherwise the only other option is to give up. Depending on your age, you can probably speak to your GP once you've been trying for 12 months and they will likely send you for some blood tests.

It’s so hard!!! I’m currently cycle 8 trying and feeling so gutted every month. I’m trying to be positive-the only thing I keep thinking is when it does happen will feel so lucky!

Hi @RPTTC - it's incredibly difficult and I also believe it's the hardest thing I've been through. It's the uncertainty and the out of control nature of this whole process.

What helped me cope was starting to get a few things tested. I felt back in control in those moments. Each test result that was normal reassured me. Then we found what probably is the reason it's taking longer and that also helps tbh. It's the hardest when nothing is identified I think. Good luck!

Hi Op, read and didn't want to run. Sending you a hand hold OP. Stay strong and I'm sending lots of baby dust your way. Fingers crossed you get a BFP soon