Ttc is ruining my life. tell me your success story

[whymewhyme]

I've writen here befor i am just totally losing hope ttc no2.

I had a mc last march, no joy since! We've been ttc 18 months all together and i feel like its ruining my life, it's consuming me and i feel sad and lost all the time. I cry all the time, I'm getting nowty and i feel shitty towards pregnant woman. its not healthy at all.
I've decided im not tracking ovulation this month i cant take anymore.

I need lifting, tell me your sucess stories x

Hey I dont have any success yet but I'm the same been trying for going on 11 months. It had took over my life. I had a long cycle this month but like you I'm going to try not to use the sticks as I think they messed me up this month. I hope we both get our bfp soon

@whymewhyme So sorry you're feeling so low, it's horrible - TTC really is torturous and so consuming at times :( Have you spoken to your GP yet? Did you have any issues conceiving baby#1?

I don't have any success stories that will probably help unfortunately, I've just starting TTC#2 myself. I hope some other ladies can offer some support and lift your spirits a little bit!

xxx

I have 3 kids but youngest is 7 we wanted to compete out family and I feel I may have may have left the gap too long. Going to try not to use sticks this month and also not sympton spot. My friend had been trying a year and got it in the last month before she was due to go see a doctor. I'm booking into a fertility clinic next month. Did you have trouble conceiving your first baby?

Take control. Have you seen your GP yet? Seek help. Don’t take no for an answer.

A fertility MOT is about £200 privately for you. Has your partner has sperm analysis done? He should have done by now. It’s not your load to bear alone.

Fertility acupuncture to promote a regular cycle and a good womb lining.

All of the vitamins- read It Starts With the Egg.
Throw out the ovulation sticks and DTD every other day, for fun. Arrange date nights and romance and time with each other so sperm is always waiting, if needed.

I get pregnant very easily but I have trouble staying pregnant, so before this sticky baby I would have a few months of sole destroying TTC post miscarriage. The only thing that made me feel better was ‘taking control’ and doing something.

I’d really ‘try’ to do whatever you can to help nature along and seek professional help- the need to get pregnant cannot be changed with mantras and ‘relaxing’.

It took me 6 years to have my first DC. Got there in the end. Then a surprise DS at 41 completed our family. We were not trying at all. I did have a miscarriage in between the two DC. We didn’t use protection at all in 3.5 years so I guess it took a while but it happened during a rather lean spell when we’d only had sex once in 2-3 months so that was quite the surprise.

Good luck OP.

I have been there totally. It took over 5 years to conceive our first I was fully depressed at how much my body failed me at that time and I just wanted to reply to say don't lose hope ♥️

No problem concieving no1,
Sperm anaysis is in normal range no issues,
Bloods and ovulation test both fine, i ovulated.
I Had a internal and external scan to check for cysts and fibroids, that was fine.

My periods have suddenly becomevery painfull but the drs didn't want to know this time so i left that appintment and booked another to speak to someone else.

I honestly don't think private is for us we just haven't got the money.

I've looked into acupuncture the lady in our area charges £150 for a zoom consultation and then face 2 face treatment is £50 so i will have to save up

Op, if expensive private treatment is out of reach then I’d recommend considering taking aspirin - 75mg daily. Very low risk and nothing really to lose for trying it for three months. It can help any possible blood clotting or immune issues.

I was advised to do this by a private consultant and for me it made ALL the difference and I was able to conceive naturally during cycles that I took it.

@Howdiditgetsobad

Op, if expensive private treatment is out of reach then I’d recommend considering taking aspirin - 75mg daily. Very low risk and nothing really to lose for trying it for three months. It can help any possible blood clotting or immune issues.

I was advised to do this by a private consultant and for me it made ALL the difference and I was able to conceive naturally during cycles that I took it.

Oh really, that's very interesting i will have a google to see if it's compatible with my meds. Thank you4

Op my story is a good one!

It took about 5 solid years to successfully get our second child.
So I cut out caffeine, alcohol, strict weight maintenance, vitamin supplements.
It affected us planning for holidays, jobs, buying a fucking car for gods sake!
Anyway, I had a total of 7 miscarriages.
It took up to 22 months in between miscarriages to even conceive.

Anyway we gave up trying. Lots of reasons not least I couldn’t face another loss.

Felt very very unwell. Recently had suffered the last miscarriage so put it down to that.

Turns out I was newly pregnant.

Had my second child exactly 10 years after my first!

OP, so sorry that you are going through this. TTC is such a difficult journey, and I really hope for positive news for you soon. For a positive story: I am in my mid-late 30s, my husband almost 40, one child conceived accidentally, but we were actively TTC our second. I had eating issues for many years, so I assume my fertility took a knock, my husband had an op as a child and was told there was a 40% chance he would have children, so the odds were not in our favour. I did the ovulation sticks for a few months to figure out my cycle. Turns out I was 20 days follicular and 10 days luteal, so understanding that made a big difference. I kind of went for it with TTC, my husband thought I was a nut job... Bc of shorter luteal I took a high dose of Vit C to try lengthen, and I think B6, used evening of primrose oil (pre ovulation only), and just to help in general, took a prenatal vitamin and a COQ10 tablet daily. My bathroom cabinets were full... lets say that. Then when it came to actually DTD preseed as lube and a menstrual cup after to keep the swimmers in. We tried for 3 months post pill and third was a charm. I think the COQ10 being several months in helped (it takes a few to get up to speed), and the fertility cup were the winning combo. We didn't DTD every day, more like every other, but the 3rd cycle I swore I was out as we had a stomach flu on the lead up to the fertile week and could barely get the energy to DTD. The day I think actually worked was the day after ovulation, so don't discount that. I really thought the cycle I got the BFP was going to be a failure based on that. I also ate some pineapple in the 2WW, why not right? Ultimately it is kind of potluck with TTC/what works. Lord knows if people 1000 years from now will be writing about weird TTC methods of people in the 2000s. Just know i'm sending you all the luck for a quick successful TTC journey soon.

I'm sorry to hear about your struggles, I hope and pray that everyone TTC ends up with a success story- Il try keep this short
I've been TTC for 3 half years, I know exactly how you feel. It's like everyone around you falls pregnant so easy but there was me every month for 42 months praying my AF never came! But like clockwork it did, Then there was the months that was a few days out, And I'm naturally excited thinking This Is It.....Then the disapointment would start all over again!
You would need to be an emotionless robot for that not to have an effect on you!
So doctors suggest being referred to the fertility clinic- But I thought let's try ovulation tests, This experience I found worse. Everyday a few times a day (ensure I never missed a peak) I was so consumed by this it took over my life I became obsessed, When this also brought no luck I was broken! So I put them in the bin in tears one day and said I've had enough.
Me personally wanted to concive naturally. After 3 half years ttc myself and partner sat down and both agreed this was having a massive impacted on my mental health and our relationship, We both agreed that we gave it our best shot but mother nature was just not on out side. We decided to find other things to fulfil our lives one of these ideas was getting a dog!
So I decided after 3 half years to go back on contraception which broke my heart but I knew at that time it was the best option.
So I was waiting for my AF to come before I started the course......35 days into the cycle (usually 30 days) I thought it was stress....That week came and went and still no AF.....I decided to take a test...Knowing full well it will be negative AGAIN- I actually done the test and left it in the bathroom.....went in to check and there it was....something I've never seen before POSITIVE TEST!!!!!!
Just as we decided to stop it happened!!
Please dont give up hope but you need to know your limits when it starts to effect your wellbeing take a brake.....I pray for sucess for you all. ❤

Hi Op - similar story for me. MMC in Dec 2021 then nothing for months and months. Had the first NHS fertility appointment booked in for April 2023 but 10 days before found out I was pregnant! As frustrating as it is is some people just take longer than others - that is why the NHS criteria for fertility assistance is trying for 2yrs (if under 35). Try and keep
positive!

It took 7.5 years to conceive our one and only naturally. We decided to stop TTC as I was becoming obsessed and just couldn't live a normal life anymore - by then we had had fertility treatment and two miscarriages. Long story short, got a puppy, feel completely in love with him and then got naturally pregnant! I used to hate people telling me it would happen when I stopped trying so hard.....