Would you wait a month?

[BiscuitLover3678]

I’ve been TTC second baby since December - 4 months in and no luck. Next cycle the due date would be 30th December. I feel like it’s the absolute worst time for a birthday! Early is Christmas, on time is that horrible in between time of the year and even early Jan is miserable.

I feel like what is one month in the grand scheme of things? Even if it takes another year, surely I won’t care that I’ll have missed one month ttc?

But I’m also not sure I can stop for one month. 🙈 has anyone else done this?

If you or your child has a birthday around this date, how do you make it special?

@irishfarmer

A pp poster said would you do summer presents. I know it is 100% materialistic and I am not like that anymore. But I think that would have made me like my January birthday as a kid. If for my birthday day I had cake/ card/ party but main birthday present was in summer. If you do that from their 1st birthday it will always be normal to them. I felt I missed out as a kid compared to sibling/ friends who had 'better' birthdays for getting presents. A mid-way point when you get a decent new toy. If their birthday is slap bang on Christmas I think I would choose a date in summer to celebrate their birthday/ have a party. That's just me and some might think I am focused on the completely wrong things.

I was thinking that but not sure.

Tbh I don’t think we’re going to stop trying. Was so gutted when AF came just want another baby 😫 and if we’re lucky enough that it works this time then I’ll just have to put all the effort into making birthday special!

You can't control when your baby is born.

I was given a due date of mid Feb and ended up having my baby prematurely early January!

I don't care either way though. Just glad she is here and well :)

@bcc89

You can't control when your baby is born.

I was given a due date of mid Feb and ended up having my baby prematurely early January!

I don't care either way though. Just glad she is here and well :)

True but mostly they do come around the date (a few weeks before or after)

Ah I completely get it. I had to respond with my thoughts as your thinking seems so close to mine. I had always said I would avoid a Christmas/ Jan baby.

We started TTC again in Nov after 2 MC's. I happened to get pregnant 1st month TTC that time and all is going well with me due at the end of July. If we had been TTC since Nov with no success so far, I have a strong feeling I wouldn't take a break in TTC now.

Good luck with what ever you decide :)

Skip it if it really bothers you but I don't think it's all that bad to have a birthday then. My friend had a NYE birthday and once we got older it meant everybody was always up for a night out! You can still make it special when they are younger too.

Plus if the baby arrives on time there will probably still be Christmas meats and soft cheeses knocking around that you cant eat pregnant

But maybe I'm biased as everyone loved to commiserate me on expecting an August baby when I was pregnant with DD (even an acquaintance with her perfectly planned September baby that ended up being 4 weeks early and born in August too lol)

@RubyFruitSunday why would they commiserate you for having an August baby? I would think that's a great time to be born. I'm due 28/07 so Aug is a very real possibility! Only thing that might be worth commiserating and only matters on a farm is that DH is probably going to have to plan when to cut silage very carefully but will prob still be mid cutting when I go into labour!

We lost our 20 week bump a few weeks ago and I really wanted to get back on it but my partner put his foot down because if it worked it would mean a Dec baby. My eldest is new years eve and I'm the 22nd so although I'm gutted about it incase I did get pregnant, I do agree that it's too much. I always find Xmas stressful. Do whatever you feel is best.

@CameraCoffeeCrochet

We lost our 20 week bump a few weeks ago and I really wanted to get back on it but my partner put his foot down because if it worked it would mean a Dec baby. My eldest is new years eve and I'm the 22nd so although I'm gutted about it incase I did get pregnant, I do agree that it's too much. I always find Xmas stressful. Do whatever you feel is best.

I’m so sorry about your baby :(

[quote irishfarmer]@RubyFruitSunday why would they commiserate you for having an August baby? I would think that's a great time to be born. I'm due 28/07 so Aug is a very real possibility! Only thing that might be worth commiserating and only matters on a farm is that DH is probably going to have to plan when to cut silage very carefully but will prob still be mid cutting when I go into labour![/quote]
Because August babies are the youngest in the school year. Lots of people told me I needed to keep my legs crossed until September so my baby would have the advantage of being the oldest. As if it works like that!

Camera so sorry for your loss

Thanks ruby fruit and biscuit lover. X

I'd skip it OP, you've only been trying for four months. OK it's not a big deal in the scheme of things, if you were 44 and had your 3rd cycle of IVF coming up then I wouldn't say cancel it. But that's not really your situation.

I'd skip, all of my friends who have birthdays in Mid-late December or early Jan absolutely hate it. Of course, having a healthy baby is the ultimate goal but if you are happy to skip a couple of months trying then I would (and did!)

Hi, also ttc second since December, i see it is not so easy so there is no way i am giving up 😁 i just want another baby whenever and as soon as possible. I have given up planning due date as i never know when it will happen.

Speaking as someone who tried for their second and thought go for it, I’d definitely wait!

I’m Christmas mad. Tree goes up first weekend in December or last weekend in November. Due 20th December, gave birth 14th December.

My Christmas was ruined due to issues settling in with baby and real sleep deprivation. I’ve done it before so knew what I was getting in to. Actually ended up back in hospital just before Christmas with a raised bp and heart rate. All brought on by anxiety. I’m ok now but it ruined Christmas for me and worse watching tv programmes from then (Christmas specials) are really triggering and almost bringing some sort of ptsd.

We’re talking about doing a version of Christmas In a few months to see if I can get my head round it and sort myself out before this year.

@RubyFruitSunday oh right, is it not possible to start them at 5? I'm in Ireland, I will not be sending ours until he is 5. It's standard enough here that if the child is born in summer they don't start until they are 5, unless you want to of course.

@BiscuitLover3678

I’ve been TTC second baby since December - 4 months in and no luck. Next cycle the due date would be 30th December. I feel like it’s the absolute worst time for a birthday! Early is Christmas, on time is that horrible in between time of the year and even early Jan is miserable.

I feel like what is one month in the grand scheme of things? Even if it takes another year, surely I won’t care that I’ll have missed one month ttc?

But I’m also not sure I can stop for one month. 🙈 has anyone else done this?

If you or your child has a birthday around this date, how do you make it special?

I was due in January and ended up with a Christmas eve babe. Totally unexpected and the holidays are crazy but I wouldn't change it for the world. Also ttc no.3 and funnily enough due to ovulate soon which would also put me at the SAME due date and needing planned c section falling on the week of Christmas 🤦🏻‍♀️🤣I don't know if il conceive this time though, so who knows. Go for it, it's choas but fun and totally doesn't matter when your child is born 😊

My birthday is between Christmas Day and New Year's Eve and I always loved it. Such a family time and joy, happiness. I'm ttc #2 and if successful, my due date would be my birthday. Doesn't bother me in the slightest.

I'd wait.

I wouldn't wait. My 2nd daughter was due March, born very unwell in December. I wouldnt change anything. Was my Christmas 'ruined'? I had a very poorly baby in hospital at Christmas and the only reason we did Christmas was for my other daughter. No it wasnt, my baby was in the world and Christmas now is extra special because it reminds me of her early weeks in the world. You may be tired, sleep deprived and not able to enjoy the usual festivities... but for me Christmas is about children so whats one Christmas without those things? Also, I think most people have a niggle about when their birthday is 😂 good luck 💗

It’s a lovely time for a birthday !!!! I wouldn’t worry or wait.

The town between Xmas and new year is nice you could put bday gifts under the tree and it adds a Celebration into that time when usually people are always off school and often off work !

Town…….should say time !

Took me 48 months to conceive DS, if I'd missed inconvenient months I'd have added on another year ... babies come when they come... Good luck x

For anyone who’s RTFT - definitely not waiting anymore 😂 I want my baby!

Wish me luck

@BiscuitLover3678 go for it!! Anything I said about presents etc is only superficial. I did mention this thread to DH and we both said if we were still trying from Nov we wouldn't be able to skip a month. Good luck :) x