Waiting for second miscarriage and feeling sad and frustrated

[georgie26493]

I had a chemical in my last pregnancy and got pregnant again only to have a scan at 6+ 3 weeks and be told the sac is too small for my dates and that it's likely the pregnancy isn't viable. It's not confirmed completely of course and I haven't started bleeding but I know it deep down as stopped 'feeling' pregnant about a week ago.

I'm feeling sad and so frustrated but aware how lucky I am to be able to actually conceive and trying to put things into perspective with everything that is going on at the moment. For people that this has happened to, did you start bleeding naturally or did you have to go to the Drs? Thank you x

I started bleeding naturally in a few weeks (around 2-3 weeks later).

I am sorry you are going through this, as I know where you are coming from. I get pregnant in a heartbeat, but my body does not sustain pregnancies properly. It is difficult when everything is focused on the 'getting pregnant', while for some it is the 'staying pregnant' that is the issue. Hang in there, and do push for referrals to see what is going on. I had an undiagnosed medical issue causing it, which was discovered after several losses. I wish I had not needed to go through that.

@4thtimethecharm thank you very much for responding. If you don't mind me asking, have you had any pregnancies that have gone on successfully and what were your diagnosed with? It's such a minefield 😞 xxx

I am in my fourth pregnancy right now, having lost the previous three. My body basically does not understand when it is pregnant, and things women's bodies naturally tend to do in pregnancy to facilitate the baby are not started up properly. Even with all the medical assistance it is not great for baby in there.

@4thtimethecharm sending you so much luck for this pregnancy, I hope that this one sticks 💕

I had 2 miscarriages and the first one was a missed miscarriage and I had a D&C, the second one I passed naturally, but it hit me a lot harder mentally. Give yourself the time you need to process and recover mentally and physically.

Thanks, OP. We hope so too.

I agree with Crochetcacher that it is quite personal what will work for you management-wise. I preferred expectant management, as I felt I was kind of mentally and emotionally dealing with the pregnancy loss in the run-up and during. But it is not a pleasant process. I know from MN that plenty of women prefer more intervention. It is hard to predict what will work for you.