Normal to feel this way - 12W pregnant

[wonderwoman26]

Apologies if this is not on the right thread.

I am 12 weeks pregnant today, and keep switching from being over the moon, and being fearful that I am not going to like motherhood.

I am truly lucky to have the most supportive partner and wider family, so I know I won’t be ‘on my own’ so to speak, but I just keep having the worry that I feel like I should be happier? I have a few friends who are further along than me, who talk about how much they love their bump and can’t wait to be a mom. And I feel like I just can’t relate at the moment?!

I feel awful saying this, I have wanted to be pregnant since a MC a few years ago, finally the time is right and I just don’t feel how I thought I would/should feel.

Please tell me this is normal and will pass?! I know I will never let baby be without, but I’m just worried I won’t be in love with motherhood like other people seem to be?!

Not only is it normal, it’s wise to go into parenting with your eyes wide open. Plus your hormones are doing a number on you right now so every day will feel different. Keep sharing all of your thoughts, including with midwife. There is help for antenatal depression if you need it, and so many women do.

Totally normal!

I'm 39 weeks now and still swing manically between love and excitement, and thinking I might have ruined our lives 😂

Don't worry about it! You don't have to be in love with motherhood to be a good mother!

Thanks guys this had made me feel so much better already.

All the people around me seem just besotted with becoming mothers, whereas I’ve grown up around sisters children and know it is not an easy thing! I guess having an open mind isn’t a bad thing!

Thank you x

I have an almost two year old and I’m still not sure if I love motherhood! Obviously I absolutely love my son to bits and the majority of the time I love being a mum but that still doesn’t mean I don’t think about life before kids. I think that is normal. It’s so life changing and especially odd when you’re pregnant as you’re almost waiting for you life to turn upside down.

(P.S I’m now TTC #2 so obviously I do love being a mum, but also sometimes I think what am I doing!)

Very normal and healthy attitude.
My DS is 11 months now and he’s great but motherhood has not consumed every fibre of my being. I still feel like a person in my own right and have interests that don’t include him. I think I’m just rambling now.

Best of luck for your pregnancy.

I think those with unrealistic expectations often struggle more once baby is here.

This is totally normal! I had the exact same feelings whilst pregnant with DD. I spent so much time worrying about not liking motherhood and worrying I had made a mistake. She’s 11 months old now and although it’s hard work, I absolutely love being her Mum!

Ah thank you everyone this has put my mind at ease!