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Conception

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Too soon to try?

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[AUTO]9szl6l0jthb5o · 09/03/2022 17:27

Me and my husband have just had our first baby born on the 19th of February and we couldn’t be happier. Now it’s all began to settle down and the new born phase is becoming much easier we have began to talk about trying for our second and both thought it would be a great idea. When we began to tell our family about it they were less than pleased and couldn’t get on board with the idea saying it was too soon and we are too young for 2 under 2. Should we try now or wait?

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Gemmathecat · 09/03/2022 17:28

If you don’t expect childcare from the family dont listen to them. Children and new life are a blessing and don’t let them deter you from that

LuckyWithMyLot · 09/03/2022 20:00

Your baby isn't even 3 weeks yet? You may find they become less sleepy and a lot more needy over the next month or so.
Obviously some people have a tiny gap between kids but I personally wouldn't have been able for it. Hardly got any sleep for 18 months with one child!

Traumdeuter · 09/03/2022 20:01

Plenty do it, but why not give your body a chance to recover from pregnancy for a few months first?

Daisypod · 09/03/2022 20:03

Your baby is only 2 weeks old, please take the time and enjoy this baby before getting pregnant. 2 weeks is nothing and your still in the baby bubble bliss, wait a few more weeks for the sleep deprivation to really kick in before making decisions like this.

IDontDrinkTea · 09/03/2022 20:06

Babies sleep a lot in the early early days. The hard part is yet to come…

Unless there are time / age pressures I would listen to your family and wait a while

OtiMama · 09/03/2022 20:43

Personally I think it's your family and do what you like. I feel you are so lucky if you are already feeling adjusted to newborn life but also if it was me I would wait a bit longer as I would have found it so tough being pregnant with such a young baby. I also think I would want to enjoy all those special moments with my first.

Savvysix1984 · 09/03/2022 20:46

Personally I think you'd be mad. Your baby is only a few weeks old. They haven't even woke up yet. I'd say enjoy your newborn and have a think in a few months. Newborn for me was the easiest, then there's periods of teething, sleep regression etc that make it really hard!

tealandteal · 09/03/2022 20:51

I wouldn’t tell my family either way to be honest but I would give your body some time to recover. At least get past the 4 month sleep regression before you make any decisions.

CathyorClaire · 09/03/2022 20:58

Why are you asking them?! Do what suits you.

FTR dc1 was a Feb baby (emergency CS) and dc2 arrived the following March. Only DF sucked his teeth a bit and yes,having children close in age has its challenges (we had 3 under 3.5 in the end) but close age gaps have all sorts of advantages later on IME.

Charl881 · 09/03/2022 21:00

Definitely wait unless you have some reason why you urgently need to get trying again.

The newborn phase is easy (well for some). It gets harder and I can’t imagine how I’d have dealt with a baby just a few months old while in the first trimester.

I remember having an almost biological urge to have a second fairly early on but I think it was just hormones, I’m glad I’ve waited now.

Enjoy all the snuggles and firsts with your little one.

JustAnotherBoringUsername · 09/03/2022 21:00

You’re brave!

MrsTimRiggins · 09/03/2022 21:20

I mean, it’s completely up to you and all but what are you on about, now things are settling down? Your baby is two weeks old, you’re still brand new to this parenting thing. Give it some time, enjoy what you have now and I expect once your hormones and that have settled down (properly!) you’ll rethink this. fwiw I had the same sort of feeling when I’d just had my boy, that kind of urge to have another.
Oh and congratulations. Make the most of your beautiful new baby, don’t rush things.

TheDaydreamBelievers · 09/03/2022 21:36

Wait to give your body a chance to rest and heal. Professionals don't recommend getting pregnant again that soon

babyjellyfish · 11/03/2022 16:22

Good lord, yes it's way too soon! Wait at least 6 months!

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