If you took the 28 days birth control pills, help me about my conceived date.

[2015StayAtHomeWife]

Sorry first for English is not my native language.

I was on the 28 days (4 weeks pack) birth control pills, and I got pregnant while missed 2 pills, and I want you to help answer me if my conceived date was right.

Anyone who take the 4 weeks pack birth control pills know that you get withdrawal bleeding at your last week of the pack, it NOT a real period, it the withdrawal of hormones of the pills.

So my withdrawal bleeding from my pills was last week of April.

May 2nd and 3rd, two of those days I missed two pills due to I got food poisoning and was vomiting alot. Since I miss 2 pills beginning of the pack, it does mess it up.

My husband really want me to get pregnant, so he took advantage of my missed pill and he had sex with me every single day in the WHOLE month of May, and whole month of June too.

I got pregnant by him.

My son due date was Feb 18th.

And the calculator said: Possible conception dates: May 25 - Jun 4. Possible dates of sexual intercourse that led to the pregnancy: May 20 - Jun 4.

So it sound right right? He did had sex with me every single day of the WHOLE month of May and June. The calculator said I got pregnant at the end of May. Which my missed pill was at beginning of May.

Help me validate that he did get me pregnant by had sex with me every single day in the whole month May calender.

Thank you.
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And why I ask the question. A female friend of mine (whom has 6 kids) keep said my conceived date was wrong. So I need validation if my conceived date was right, because I keep tell her it right, but she keep said wrong. So help me settle this debate please.

My friend she keep saying my conceived date was May 7 as she go by that last withdrawal period from my birth control pills which was the last week of the pack on last week of April. But I keep tell her that anyone who take the 28 days four weeks pills has withdrawal period at the end of their pack, and it NOT a real period. But she not listen. She keep said my conceived date not right and that I got pregnant 2 weeks AFTER my withdrawal period on April (CD14).

But clearly that not the case since my son Due Date (from dating ultrasound) was Feb 18th. And the calculator said my conceived dated was END of May, last week of May. So I must ovulated last week of May and got pregnant.

You go by the ultrasound date if you weren't having normal periods. Your friend should keep their nose out of it.

Did you not consider the morning after pill after the sickness/missed pills? Did you want all the sex your husband had with you to try to get you pregnant?

@dementedpixie

You go by the ultrasound date if you weren't having normal periods. Your friend should keep their nose out of it.

Did you not consider the morning after pill after the sickness/missed pills? Did you want all the sex your husband had with you to try to get you pregnant?

Thank you for your replied. It just she went buy the withdrawal bleeding of the 28 days pack pills, which you do get bleeding at the last week of each month, but those bleeding are not a real period, it the hormones from the pills. So she went by that I got that bleeding end of April, so she keeps said I MUST ovulate on May 7.

I mean I do get it that you ovulate at CD14, but I was on the pills, so my bleeding was not natural period. So I don't know why she keep said she right.
I did missed my pills May 2nd and 3rd, and four weeks later end of May I must have a real ovulation of an egg, because I got pregnant.

Now bring to my next point, my friend whom just like to debate, not that she care. But she said I did NOT use the word "NO", letter N and O. Therefore it my fault that I got pregnant.
What happened was true, I did NOT use the word No, but I did tell my husband that it not a good time due to my missed pills for two days straight, and he knows too because he saw me vomit in that 2 days of my food poisoning.

I keep told him it NOT a good time, I not want to get pregnant due to my missed pill. So I don't understand how can he not know that that was a No. I mean do I literally have to said the letter No?

He ignore me and went on sucking on my mouth and neck and shoulder, and he did things that feels good to get me turn on, and I had consensual sex with him. The sex was consensual, always has been consensual. But just because he really good in bed and I want sex with him that doesn't mean I consent to a pregnancy and a baby, you know what I mean?

My husband put me in mother role, a role that to me it forever, it mom role doesn't end at our child turn 18.

It already happened, our son is a toddler now. No, I never wanted an abortion as I love my husband, how can I abort the baby of the man I love? It just I love him is one thing, but I do feel resentment on him purposely got me pregnant/took advantage of my missed pill.

Sorry my English not good, it my third language. Thank you for hear me vent.

He thinks by me have his child, me and him will be tied together forever., I just wish that he would know even if I not carried his child/we not have a baby together, I still never leave him. I am willingly to be tied to him forever even without have a child.

It just hard on me, and I'm trying to get over this resentment. But I love him I don't want to leave him.

I never mentioned abortion; just the morning after pill that you can take if you have sex after missing pills. The sex sounds coerced rather than fully consensual if you didn't want it on every occasion.

@dementedpixie

I never mentioned abortion; just the morning after pill that you can take if you have sex after missing pills. The sex sounds coerced rather than fully consensual if you didn't want it on every occasion.

I was a virgin when we together, so I not know much about the morning after pill, my culture doesn't teach us much about sex (I'm from China but living oversea). Both me and my husband we not English/British.

It my fault that I didn't take the morning after pill.

But I thought if I told him that it was not a good time and that I not want to get pregnant due to my missed pill, then I thought he would take that as a No. I take the full blame on not use the word No.
But when he started kissing all over me I did tried my best to push him off me, I even call his name 3 times. I mean that should be enough for him to know that it a No.

Thank you for help validate my feelings on this.

@dementedpixie

Sorry I just have to say one more thing. My friend said that by my husband had sex with me EVERY SINGLE DAY in the whole month of May, he actually trying to DECREASE my chance of get pregnant as sperm take 24 hours to regenerate.

Oh my God, she just like to debate doesn't she?

I'm sorry, they don't sound like a good friend or husband. Your feelings are completely valid. Your friend is wrong on the dates, ignore her. Your husband was wrong to pursue sex after you made it clear you didn't want it.