Trying to conceive after miscarriage vacuum procedure??

[mummyofrb]

I recently had a missed miscarriage and had the vacuum procedure. I'm wondering if anybody else has had this procedure and how long before you tried again/became pregnant again? I'm keen to try straight after my first period but unsure what to do bc I don't want to take any risks Xxx

Watching this with interest. I had the same earlier this week, have had the procedure and now just bleeding lightly. Hoping to get a negative test at 3 weeks as the dr suggests I should. Just not really sure what to expect from that post onwards!

Sorry for your loss ❤️

I’m also unsure of when to start again, lots of what I see suggests drs ask for you to have a period for dating purposes only, however other things I’ve read suggest that you need to wait for your lining etc to recover properly? Not sure which research is accurate on this. Although I’m not sure what the best approach is, as how does anyone really know what’s going on inside their body/when their lining is recovered etc… I know it’s somewhat out our control, but I don’t want to do anything that may risk being in this situation again x

Sorry for your loss

I had this done in July 2020 I had one period in the august then got my bfp in September and my little boy has just turned 9 months

Good luck

@CupidStunt24 I'm so sorry for your loss💕 I feel exactly the same in wanting to prevent any risks, I've carried on taking folic acid and making my partner take it aswell in preparation. How have you been feeling? Xx

@Rainbowbaby13 thankyou so much it's so lovely to hear a success story🌈 i would try and wait longer but I just long to be pregnant again so much! How did you feel during your pregnancy? I think I will be a nervous wreck. With my mmc I had no sickness during the pregnancy which made me wonder if something was wrong because I was so sick with my daughter but ofc you are reassured everything is fine - I think I'll be symptom spotting like crazy.

@mummyofrb I'm not going to lie it was tough especially the first 12 weeks they felt like the longest but I had two private reassurance scans one at 7 weeks and 1 at 10 weeks obviously this doesn't mean everything will go to plan but it really helped me cope with the worry.

Obviously after 12 weeks I still worried especially as I had an anterior placenta so I couldn't feel him moving until later than most

I also had a lot of monitoring at the end because he was breech and I couldn't feel him moving very often

But all the worry was so worth it he's here now and been through so much in his short 9 months after major heart surgery to close a hole but I wouldn't change it for the world

In fact I might be crazy but we're on our second cycle of trying again already the fear of another MMC is real but I'm not one to dwell on things and like to think my glass is always half full

If you have any other questions please feel free to ask

@mummyofrb I’m the same as you, have continued with the folic acid and clinging on to hope that it won’t be too long. To be honest, emotionally I am ok at the moment, I think I have been so caught up in the physical side of it that I have been so focussed on getting that bit “dealt” with that I haven’t really come to terms with the emotional side yet! I do have a little boy, he is 1 so is keeping me very busy and enjoying every second of him. This pregnancy happened very quickly, within 2 weeks of coming off the pill. I think I knew in my gut from the beginning it wasn’t going to work out, I can’t explain the feeling but I almost wasn’t at all shocked when they said it hadn’t developed. Not that it doesn’t hurt and of course I am upset, I’m just dealing with the task at hand at the moment and waiting for that negative test! How are you feeling? I hope you’re ok ❤️ Xx

Thank you @Rainbowbaby13 for that lovely positive story! Gives off lots of hope xx

@CupidStunt24 so odd I felt exactly the same it felt too good to be true from the beginning, I felt uneasy with it the whole time and was almost expecting it but told myself it was just nerves. I don't know if it's the way our heads cope with it by acting like we knew the whole time. I remember been nervous with my first but more assured than I felt with this last one. Almost willing my period to come so I can start trying! I've read lots of things that say becoming pregnant within 6 months after mc can have better outcome. I am nervous but hopeful Xxx

Oh my god exactly the same as me! I’m a very anxious person anyway, and from the beginning with my first I was scared and couldn’t accept it was really happening but I was hopeful. With this one, I couldn’t even discuss when I might be going on maternity leave, or arrange time off for maternity appts because I felt I “knew” I wasn’t going to be going through it. I do agree, I think it’s self preservation, I hate pity and my family being upset for me, so I think I down play it as much as possible! I’m really hoping for you things go smoothly. How old is your daughter? Xx

@CupidStunt24 good luck to you I'm sure it will all work out for you

I had the vacuum procedure for an mmc. I started trying again the following month and got pregnant the month after that.

It's a good idea to wait until after your next period - I think there's a slight risk of infections and difficulties at the start of your next pregnancy if you don't. I think having a period 'resets' your system.

Mmc is a really shitty thing to happen

I assume both of you that fell pregnant again had no issues with your periods coming back normally/quickly? That’s my next fear! Feels like such a minefield all this.

Sorry to jump in on your thread and ask questions @mummyofrb, we are just both in the same boat and probably have the same things to ask xx

@CupidStunt24 I've says been really lucky with my periods even after being on the pill for years they came back straight away and have always been regular

@CupidStunt24 no ask away! It's comforting to know others have been through this and made it to other side. I'm the same about upsetting family I had to say early on after I found out about mmc as nice as it is they are thinking of me I can't deal with taking on others emotions. After my procedure I felt that relief that is was done and then the sadness hit after couple of days and I was quite unconsolable, my little one is 3 so gave me plenty of reasons to smile which I'm so grateful for - this made me feel bad for mourning my loss as I'm already so lucky. It's now been almost 3 weeks since procedure and I'm definitely more stable emotionally and although I'm still carrying the sadness I find planning my next pregnancy is healing for me - Im also anxious about period not coming back quickly xxx

@bumpyknuckles thanks for your comment I'll definitely wait until after first period, did you try again during that first cycle? How did you find your pregnancy? Really find comfort in knowing people go on to have a healthy pregnancy Xxx

I tried again during the first cycle after my period, but didn't get pregnant. My period came totally normally tho, and I got pregnant on the cycle after that. The second pregnancy went fine, and my little girl is now 3. I'm pregnant with my second now.

I was anxious throughout my second pregnancy, as others are / were on this thread. Having an mc makes it much harder to relax in your next pregnancy, unfortunately.

@mummyofrb I know exactly what you mean! I didn’t cry until the day after the MVA, I found our on the Weds and had the surgery on the Monday. My family on the other hand were so upset and I just couldn’t deal with the upset it caused to them aswell as actually going through it! So by saying “it’s fine, I’m fine”, kind of softened it for them (I think). I’m now on a complete wagon of “what can I do to help next time”. Been looking at vitamins etc, but for every cause to take them is an argument to not. Maybe I just need to leave it nature, I can get pregnant and have a baby, it’s just the fear of going through this again. Have you now had a negative test with being nearly 3 wks from surgery? Xx

@CupidStunt24 completely with you there google is not my friend🙈 I breezed through it last time now I'm worrying about what vitamins and when! I haven't taken one yet I think it's quite triggering that we're asked to, I'm going to buy one this weekend though. My bump has completely gone and my boobs aren't sore so I think it will be negative but we will see! I do want to test though just to know for sure. My heavy bleeding stopped after couple of days and I've had no pain but still got last bits of the mc coming out almost 3 weeks on not even enough to fill pant liner but still there🤦‍♀️just can't wait for it to all be done with so can move forward xxx

@mummyofrb @CupidStunt24 hello! Hope you're both ok. I have an MVA yesterday and just wanted to know how you're both getting on in terms of ttc? I really want to try again as soon as I get the negative test because my periods are so irregular x

@Rolo08 Hello! I'm so sorry for your loss it's such a lonely and heartbreaking time🤍 I hope it reassures you that I now have a 5 month old! I waited the 2 full cycles recommended after the op. Then it took me 2 months to catch pregnant. So I had the op in the Feb and got pregnant in the July. It's so hard though because every day feels like forever when you're longing to be pregnant. A lot of people just wait for their period to return and start straight away which is completely personal preference. I even know some friends who got pregnant before their period even returned. I'm so sorry again for your loss and hope you are doing as well as you can be🤍 lots of love x

@mummyofrb congratulations lovely, that made me smile. I guess I'm more worried because my periods are so irregular so I could be waiting months if I was to wait. Doctors have told me I don't need to but I'm worried because everybody seems to say they waited at least one cycle. How did your friends that conceived before their periods get on with the pregnancies? X

@Rolo08 if they said you don't need to wait I'd just go for it if you feel ready. The only reason they tell you to wait is for dating reasons I think because it's hard to work out when the baby was conceived so for growth etc. I was only told that after if I'd have known it was only that reason I'd have tried straight away. They had completely straight forward normal pregnancy and healthy baby. How are you feeling in yourself? xx

Hello @Rolo08! I'm so sorry for your loss, I hope you're doing ok

Hi @mummyofrb - congratulations to you! ❤️

My experience pretty much mirrors @mummyofrb in that I now have a 6mo. My period returned 5 weeks after the MVA, we didn't try at all before my period returned as I was just too worried. We tried that first cycle and didn't fall pregnant, I was so gutted. But fell the second cycle. I was still testing positive 3 weeks after my MVA so I had to go in to be scanned, I had said to my partner the day before that I felt like I had ovulation pain but didn't think it was possible - the scan was clear, no remaining products but the sonographer could see I had just ovulated which was such a relief! And my first period arrived bang on two weeks after that so it really did all settle and return to normal quite quickly. I really hope you're as ok as you can be and I have these experiences give you a bit of encouragement ❤️

I must say though, after the first cycle when I didn't fall pregnant, I decided to try the ClearBlue digital ovulation sticks the next month, I was dubious as I didn't want to become obsessed but I just needed to know I was timing things right. I actually got the peak fertility day a couple of days earlier than I'd expected to so I was so glad I used them and that was the month that was successful! If your doctor has said you've no reason to wait then I see no reason why you can't just try, especially if your periods are quite irregular anyway, as you say you could be waiting a while to try again - and every day feels like forever when you're TTC

@CupidStunt24 congratulations lovely. Did they say why you were still testing positive 3 weeks after? It's been a month since my miscarriage started and I was still testing positive until my MVA so dreading it more now.

@mummyofrb I'm feeling ok in myself physically but mentally I just really want to be pregnant again. I keep reading everywhere that people who did waited until their period but I don't know how long that would be for me so that worries me a bit if I were to get pregnant x