What else can I do?

[Redstar2015]

About to start ttc cycle #3 as AF is due today and I can tell it is definitely on it's way. So far I've been using CBFM and preseed and ttc every other high and trying to do every peak and the high after (though cycle 1 we did two peaks and cycle two peak one and high after). Is there anything else I should be doing? With my first I got pregnant on cycle two using the above method but we're five years older now. I keep worrying it's not going to happen as even though I got pg quickly last time this was after a huge scare with fertility (surgery on ovaries, which caused both tubes to temporarily block). I'm trying to be more relaxed this time but finding it hard, especially as I'm nearing 35 and I have early menopause that runs in my family.

@Redstar2015 It can take up to a year for a couple without any fertility issues to conceive naturally, so you really are in early days. If you are still struggling after 12 months then I would chat to your doctor and ask for a referral to a fertility clinic. Alternatively, if you are really concerned about early menopause, then you could approach a private clinic and ask for a fertility health check. It will likely cost a few hundred pounds but might put your mind at ease. My only advice is to DTD regularly, every other day unless you are tracking your ovulation with temping/OPKs etc.

@Kay00, Oh, I do know it's early days, and in that respect I'm not panicking yet. I did have the GP run tests not so long ago for me because during the pandemic my periods went a bit haywire, but I think that was just down to stress and everything is pretty regular again. I did have covid in January and noticed increased cramping around my period and I'm also getting nausea close to my period which started after the covid and is really confusing as it makes me think I'm pregnant when I'm not. Otherwise I seem to be ovulating with a regular cycle, but I don't temp as that's not for me so I just trust my body is doing it's thing after my lh surge is detected.

Right now I'm mainly trying to figure if there's anything else we should be doing to improve our chances of conception. I'm taking prenatal vitamins and dh has a general vitamin. We are using the CBFM (though as above not sure if we should be dtd more often) and also using preseed. I know some people dtd everyday of fertile week but I don't think that's for us. We both get sick of it and I got a UTI the first month ttc which really sucked.

The only niggle at the back of my mind is when I was having health issues before we got dh tested. It was after we found out the antibiotic treatment I had to help unblock my tubes worked and everything was okay with me, but then to just put our minds at rest after that emotional roller coaster as we were on private healthcare then we had him tested and the results were really, really bad. Like even doing IVF we'd have had to go a special route because all his numbers were so low. Because I got pregnant fast in the end I'm also hoping that was just a bad sample and the results were wrong, and I don't want to put dh through that again too early because I know it worried him, but a part of me wonders if my dc was just our "miracle baby" and that's it for us.

Anyway, I'm trying not to let those worries take over but it's hard to just "relax" like I'd like to because we're getting older (35 for me, early 40s for dh) and because it was an emotional roller coaster last time with me be told at one point I could not naturally conceive and then being told dh had major fertility issues after his test, so they aren't completely unfounded worries, if that makes sense.