Doctors appointment experiences

[Superunknown1]

Hello! I’m a long-time lurker just now deciding to actually post here

We have been TTC for over 2ish years now, I came off the implant around 3.5 years ago ish? And had no luck. Even though I spent lockdown obsessing and using ovulation kits, changing my diet and everything I could think of to give myself a better chance.

My other half already has a child so I’m certain the issue is my end, I am only in my early 20s and find it gutting after spending my teen years terrified of the concept of pregnancy as was always led to believe that if you are ever intimate you will instantly fall pregnant. Feels stupid when I realise now how hard it can be!

I’ve had bloods done but not sure if my GP has done them right, had to redo as first doctor didn’t really have much clue. They did what they said would be my 1st and 21st days of my cycle but didn’t check how long my cycle is or when I usually ovulate, is this normal? My GP was quite dismissive and said some people just can’t fall pregnant and it wasn’t honestly what I wanted to hear. What will the next step be? Will I be sent for scans? I have always suspected I may have endometriosis but obviously not diagnosed, and GP is overlooking that part and focusing on the TTC (which I’m fine with).

Currently laid on the sofa feeling sick and exhausted and with sore boobs but every single month I feel this way, get up my hopes and then it crushes me when I start cramping and bleeding.

I think I’m just looking for people like me, and experiences with what will happen next with my doctor. Or some handholding of some kind. I sound so mean-spirited but I don’t even want to log into Facebook as I keep seeing so many people I went to school with having babies, posting about their pregnancies and I just can’t face it. x

Any input would be massively appreciated, feeling so alone in this. It feels like forever of trying and failing now :(

Unfortunately, depending on which NHS trust you are in you may not be eligible for investigation or treatment as your partner already has children. In some trusts you will be eligible for investigation only, in a couple of trusts investigation and treatment.

If you do have to look privately, comprehensive assessment can be gotten for about £600. It's treatment that can be expensive.

If the NHS will offer investigation, you are looking for cycle day 1, 3 and 21 bloods with androgen and hormone levels, a pelvic scan, and likely a hycosy down the line for you and a seminal analysis for him.

Also you are not alone - trying 2 yrs here!

Hello,
I went for checks after 2 years of trying. Ours was secondary infertility. We had the blood checks which you mentioned and they were fine. So then l just had a scan at the hospital which checked the womb was clear etc. I think that's all they can do on the NHS. Apart from a hycosy which puts some dye through your tubes to check they're clear l think. All of our tests were clear but we still couldn't conceive. We did both get checked before we started private treatment. We ended up having private IVF as we already had a child. I would keep nagging the doctors and try and get the hospital scans/possible hycosy if that's needed. Wishing you lots of luck know how hard it is x