Feeling like it will never happen

[L0ts]

Nearing the end of cycle 7 of ttc baby number 2. It took 10 months to conceive my son so this isn’t an unfamiliar feeling for me, but still isn’t making it any easier

I’m 9dpo and bfn this morning, feeling like honestly giving up a little. I had a CP during cycle 2 so really had high hopes it wouldn’t take as long as it did for my son, yet here we are.

Every month it’s stark whites, no symptoms and just disappointment. These last two months I’ve stopped tracking ovulation and tried to chill out and have casual sex over the month but it’s made no difference.

Anybody else feeling disheartened?

Very, but you've got a good, good chance, you've already had one so you know you can get and stay pg.

I don't know how helpful that is for you but my husband keeps saying getting pg even though they aren't sticking is a good sign that we can get pg 🙄 If this current one doesn't stay put I'm going to speak to my doctor about investigations into why, but I doubt she'll take me seriously now due to my age (40).

I could have written this myself. My DS took 13 months to conceive and we weren’t sure it would ever happen due to my DP having chemo in the past. Now TTC #2 and on cycle 6, BFN at 10dpo this morning and I just feel like it’s never going to happen. It feels so much tougher this time around and I don’t understand why.

I go from trying to be really grateful that I have my DS and thinking it will happen in time, even if that time is a year or two, to just being obsessed with it. Which probably doesn’t then help. I conceived DS when we were on holiday so I genuinely think relaxing about it helps but it’s impossible to force yourself to relax.

Oh and also had a CP when not trying May last year, pretty sure we only DTD once that whole cycle yet now I’m timing it, DTD all the time and still no luck.

Hey, same here. I had a MC in Nov. I'm 39 and TTC no 3...I know I can get pregnant, but it's not happened yet since Nov. I just can't handle this constant obsession. Kind of feel like I should have given up after 2, I'm incredibly lucky to have them..but that urge just takes over. I really panic over my age as well. Argh. Currently 5 DPO xx

Same here OP, it's so depressing.

I took 4 or 5 months to get pregnant with DS and fell pregnant after 5 months this time around. However, it ended in a MMC and I just had my next cycle. I was sure I was pregnant again but BFNs and AF just showed her ugly head :(

I just want to be pregnant!

Same. I feel like if I knew for certain it would happen, but it would take X months, mentally I’d be OK waiting and trying that long. It’s the uncertainty and endless hope/disappointment that’s wearing.

I had a chemical pregnancy on our first cycle TTC #2 and I was devastated but really thought it was a good sign; read so many stories about people getting pregnant two weeks after their chemical.
Months later and still BFNs and nothing happening, feel like I made it up in my head.

@stuntbubbles that’s exactly how I feel, I’d you told me I’d get pregnant in September say I’d be fine. I just worry so much about secondary infertility and that my chemical was our only chance of giving DS a son. I know that’s irrational but it’s hard not to worry.

Thanks ladies, so sorry that you’re here too and knowing how this feels.

11dpo and another bfn today, going to probably call it a day this cycle and start being hopefully for cycle 8 😩😩😩

So frustrating!

Just updating this.. AF arrived this morning 2 days early ergh, can’t say I’m shocked. I literally had zero symptoms to obsessed over and had bfn every morning since 9dpo.

On to cycle 8! Best of luck to all of you lovely ladies ❤️

Hello! No advice but feeling the same.

My first pregnancy took 8 months to conceive and then I had a mmc. My second pregnancy (with my dd) took another 8 months to conceive. I'm now ttc number 2 and have just started cycle 6. It sucks. I honestly believe that for some of us it really just takes ages, even when there are no issues.

Just wanting to keep all the threads I start during ttc up to date.. I’m currently CD1 of cycle 9 😔😩

Always sworn I’d update any threads I started because it’s a pet hate of mine coming across old threads during my late night googling sessions with no update at the end.

So for anybody reading this in the future, 10th cycle and I have my BFP!! I’m still incredibly anxious and probably will be for the next 9 months but here we go! I got my positive on a digital today and the lines seem to be progressing nicely 🥰❤️

Best of luck to anybody ttc! xxx

Congratulations @L0ts ! Wishing you all the best for your pregnancy! You'll be having a very happy new year indeed.

I fell pregnant on my next cycle (7) and am now 7+3.

@L0ts congratulations! I was on this thread originally ally and still no BFP here (although have had a chemical since) but you are giving me hope! Wishing you a happy and healthy pregnancy.