This is my first time posting...
So my wonderful partner has found out recently there's a good chance he's infertile. He already has three children with his ex-partner. I don't have any children and would like to have some in the -reasonably near- future.
He's had surgery as a damage-limitation/precautionary measure which I really appreciate, but from the sounds of it it has limited success. We haven't started trying for a baby yet but a big chunk of me feels completely sad/lost, not only that we possibly can't have children but also that he's had that wonderful experience with someone else, and now I might not get to experience it at all.
He's said he understands if I want to find seomeone else, but he's amazing and it breaks my heart to think of splitting up. He's 20 years older than me and a part of me thinkgs this is nature's way of stopping what shouldn't happen, there's lots of data on child mortality and miscarriage increasing with age. I'm full of worry of what might not happen, and even if it does happen, would the baby be healthy?
I'm not sure what to do/say (other than be there for him), or what I expect from any of you, but I feel like I need to get this off my chest and I can't talk to anyone about it.
Thank you x