Is it normal to stress when TTC?

[Emmah120595]

Me and my partner have decided to start TTC. I am 26 and he is 30. I do suffer with anxiety and as much as it is an exciting time I’m also struggling to keep my cool. We have decided to not track my ovulation and just try and DTD every 2-3 days. It’s not even been a month and I’m already stressing that it’ll take ages, what if I’m infertile, what happens if I miscarried, what if what if that it’s stressing me. Is this normal and how do you try and relax at the beginning?

It’s probably unavoidable since you suffer from anxiety but no, I don’t think this is ‘normal’ for a woman in her twenties. The vast majority of women your age will be pregnant within a year, most much sooner. Yes, some have trouble but that’s something to get nervous about when you’ve been trying for 6 months with no success, not a couple of weeks. Maybe chat to a GP to see if they can get you some counselling to help you cope. If you’re worrying now you’re likely to find pregnancy — from first trimester worries about miscarriage to scan anxiety and nerves about anomaly screening — pretty tough going so worth getting some support in place.

Completely normal !
I'm on Cycle Ten (1 Mc & 1 Ectopic)
And it's tough.
I find staying in control and tracking / researching and educating myself as much as possible helps.
I also am really open with my partner and close friend
Don't beat yourself up though, it's completely normal to feel anxious ♥️ make sure you look after yourself too.

I wouldn't think this normal for early ttc in someone so young. I'd understand if you were over 40, been trying over a year or had other issues eg.pcos at play.

First few months of ttc are really fun and exciting! Maybe you should talk to your GP about your anxiety.

Anxiety is tough @Emmah120595 so I think it’s normal in that context. I suffer from it and have found it hard, but I would try to keep it chilled for the first six months if you can because you’re young and likely fine. Take it one month at a time, there’s no point worrying about things in the future until you get to that point, as much as anxiety wants you to do that.

@Emmah120595

Me and my partner have decided to start TTC. I am 26 and he is 30. I do suffer with anxiety and as much as it is an exciting time I’m also struggling to keep my cool. We have decided to not track my ovulation and just try and DTD every 2-3 days. It’s not even been a month and I’m already stressing that it’ll take ages, what if I’m infertile, what happens if I miscarried, what if what if that it’s stressing me. Is this normal and how do you try and relax at the beginning?

I feel like I could have written this. I'm 30, DH is 36 and he has 3dc from previous relationship. I've had a lot of medical issues (none involving down there, though), and have been thinking the exact same things as you. I'm on cycle 1 of ttc and have found myself so stressed on if I'm actually fertile, whether I'm ovulating or not, all the things.

All we can do is breathe and just get through one day at a time.

It'll be ok

You are way too young to be this stressed but I do understand. I was stressing a lot too even before trying! All for nothing though. Got pregnant on the second try and with second baby on the first try :) so don’t stress, you are very young and you have tons of time, good luck to you

I am 27 and when we started I was also overthinking everything. We then got pregnant twice and had two miscarriages 🤷🏻‍♀️ I found tracking ovulation was better for me as I knew exactly when it was happening. I'm now 11 weeks pregnant and still overthinking but just about new stuff 😂. I just keep busy and try to enjoy the process. Good luck xx

When we TTC I was 24 and just like this, it was awful! But in the typical way the one month we didn't try (and actually were in very bad mood with each other most the month!!) Was the one and I know have a 4 week old- good luck and try and enjoy it