42 and confused about whether ttc baby number 3

[Maybebaby7]

Hi everyone,,
I’ve been driving myself mad of late not knowing whether to try for another baby. I am 42, my dp is 32. We have 2 boys ages 16 & 5. I have also had a few loses 😢
I feel I want another as our little one doesn’t really have a relationship with his brother. Eldest only really interested in his friends.
As I am nearing the end of my fertile days I am scared that soon I will not have the choice to give my child another sibling. This is not the only reason for wanting another. I just feel my family may not be complete.
I am also aware of my age and associated risks etc and being an older mum.
Each month when my af arrives I thank god for another cycle and think this month I will try for another but then I change my mind.
Anyone else near my age on the fence? Xx

I'm 41 and my DH has just had a vasectomy reversal so we can try for one more.

Don’t think the having a friend for your 5 year old reason makes sense tbh he will be 6 plus when any baby is born - no synergy there for being childhood friends. I am 6 years older than one of my siblings we great now but as a child we didn’t play at all

@MsTSwift

Don’t think the having a friend for your 5 year old reason makes sense tbh he will be 6 plus when any baby is born - no synergy there for being childhood friends. I am 6 years older than one of my siblings we great now but as a child we didn’t play at all

^ this - don’t do it just for a sibling for the child.

I was a similar age, but only had one. It really depends on energy levels, if your DH /partner id hands on etc.
If you would love another, then go for it!

I’m sorry about your past losses .

Are your kids your partner’s kids? He was 16 and you were 26 when first was born??

@Cheekypeach no first was with my first husband. X

Go ahead and try. You don’t want to look back after 5 years regretting you didn’t try. Doesn’t matter what others will say - it’s your life, they won’t live for you.
I feel the same I’m incomplete with 1. Trying for number 2 at 41. Started at 40 though.. good luck!

Thank you to everyone that has commented. I know it’s a very personal choice. Growing up I had 2 ds. One 2 years younger we hated each other and one 7 years younger we adored each other. I just go from thinking how much easier life is to craving those sleepless nights again. @GingerFox2021 good luck ttc and to anyone else trying.
I fell easily at 40 but suffered a loss. X