Convinced I’m infertile just on a ‘feeling’

[Jmarie123]

Hi,
Been ttc for a couple months and no success yet but I know it’s only early. I’ve been so disheartened about it and sort of convinced myself there must me something wrong or I’m infertile just based on a ‘feeling’. I don’t really know what I’m looking for but maybe some reassurance if anyone’s been through the same? I know it’s silly really but it’s so hard not to over think every little thing.

I know a girl who ‘had a feeling’ she had a defective womb and would never conceive. She has four children now. Get yourself a copy of Jean Twenge’s How To Get Pregnant Quickly, enjoy some sex with OH when the signs are auspicious, and tell yourself that your feeling is just a manifestation of anxiety with no actual meaning. Good luck, and I hope you get your positive test soon.

I am in no way shape or form a Dr (!) but I always had a gut feeling that I would never conceive a child naturally. Fair few accidents and late periods, 5 years ttc and 4 years using the withdrawal method and no pregnancy. I was however extremely lucky via one round of ivf and have twins. No apparent reason for a lack of pregnancy for the first 4 years of ttc, but between year 3-5 my ovarian reserve became low - I was 30.

Just to add, no other woman on either side of my family have had trouble conceiving, and have had children late 30-40s without bother, I was just unlucky.

Good luck!

It’s not been long at all but I know what you mean.

I was with a partner for years, never used protection, never even had a pregnancy scare. (He has a child so has no issues!) thought I was infertile.

Slept with my now ex husband once before he flew back to his barracks and fell for my son.

A few years after my son was born I was diagnosed with pcos and ovarian failure, told I wouldn’t be able to conceive. Didn’t have a period for over 2 years.

I’m 37 weeks pregnant.

When it’s meant to happen it will.

I convinced myself this for years! I have 2
Miraculous babies and beat my self diagnosis 🤦🏻‍♀️🤪

I convinced myself of this too, and if I wasn't worrying about me I was worrying about my partner. Nearly went mad (now 10 weeks pregnant )

I was convinced of this too, hadn't been trying but just really irresponsible when I was younger with partners and contraception and my friends often had scares I had a period every month without fail. When I started seeing DP I went on the contraceptive patch and fell pregnant 12 weeks later. It was a complete shock

Thank you all so much. It’s really reassuring, for some reason it just feels almost unrealistic to hope for the positive! Suppose it’s just because it’s really wanted. Hoping this month will be it 🤞🏻

My friend had a feeling she was , the bfp proved otherwise . I worried about being infertile and have had a bfp myself recently .

I felt this way too. I just couldn't imagine even having a baby, I guess because I wanted it so badly.
I was so upset each month I didn't fall pregnant

I worried so much about it but fell pregnant on month 5.

I know it's hard OP, but try not to stress. It's entirely normal to take up to 12 months to conceive.

Yeah I thought this. Anyone that chucks out the claptrap "always trust your gut" I laugh at... it's bollocks. I have three healthy kids. The first just took a while to conceive.

I thought the same from age 15-28.
Concieved even at 37.

I took two years to conceive the first. Two months the second. Two seconds after stopping the pill by the third.

But then you will worry at every stage.

Will I miscarry? Will they have an infant disease? On and on. Teenagers are a whole other worry.

I thought this, got pregnant on 2nd cycle.

Have you tried the 'Conceive Plus' lube. We used that the cycle we conceived.

My sister had the same thing. Always insisted she was infertile. 10 years without contraception but she's having her first child this year. Turns out her ex may have had the problem

These 'feelings' are just fears nothing more! Keep going x