Fading line FRER 13dpo - please has anyone had a positive outcome?

[HopingForRainbow2021]

I just don’t know what to do with myself. Spent last year going through 5 cycles of IVF, with no joy - just one chemical in July. Prior to that I had an MMC in November 2020. I was so happy and cautiously optimistic when I got a BFP this cycle at 11dpo. After all the heartache I couldn’t help but try to reassure myself by testing every morning. There was a little progression at 12dpo, but today’s 13dpo test is lighter than the original bfp. I’m sure I’m having another chemical but just don’t want to accept it. This is heartbreaking. Any advice or experience, please? I feel like I’m falling apart x (top is 11dpo bottom is 13dpo)

I'm so sorry for everything you have been through @HopingForRainbow2021. I don't want to keep your hopes up but I don't see the line as fading necessarily. Did you test at the same time, after a long hold? Do you have the possibility go get your hcg tested in your blood?

@Bundaberg84 thank you so so much for replying. It’s hard not to feel alone - DH is supportive but doesn’t really understand. The line from this morning is quite a lot lighter in real life. DH is usually overly positive but even he seems to think this is not going to end well. I tested this morning just hoping so much to see a line darker than my original one - just to give some peace of mind. But I’m fairly certain now of how this will go. I’m just grasping at straws and hoping someone will come along and say they had a lighter test but that it all worked out okay in the end x

@HopingForRainbow2021 I'm so sorry! I just keep my fingers crossed for you, but yes it might be turning into a chemical. Prepare for the worst but hope for the best.

Are all tests FMU? Iv had this happen too many times unfortunately and like you it was around the 10-11dpo mark I got a positive and it would get darker over a day or so then fade off and become negative the my period would arrive around about on time. It made me wonder how many times it’s happened when I haven’t been testing like a mad woman. I’m sorry your going through this if it is another chemical. I had two in a row before I got pregnant on the 3rd month and had my youngest. It was awful it happening twice in a row, your almost just getting excited then it’s gone so quickly. I’m 16dpo and getting very strong positives now but I did go 3 days at first with clear blue where the lines didn’t seam to get darker but now they are extremely dark. So there is still a chance for you and I pray for a good outcome for you

I had take a picture, they were in order of the way I took them, they were from 9dpo until 12dpo. I’m now 16 and lines are extremely dark on cheapie tests

And this was this mornings test at 16dpo

@Bundaberg84 and @Nikki037297 you’re both so kind, thank you. It’s helped just sharing and knowing someone somewhere understands. I just went to dr and he’s agreed to do beta HCG blood test but the first available appointment was Thursday, so may already know by then. @Nikki037297
The first test at 11 dpi was 3rd morning itinerary but the others are both first xx

Urine not itinerary ^

@Nikki037297 I’m so glad your line has become so lovely and strong xx hoping for a happy abs healthy 9 months for you xx

Dont want to give you false hopw but I don't see a lighter line. However I agree they aren't noticeably darker.
I am myself in that situation so can't comment on the outcome but your line are strong and it might just be urine concentration.
See what happens tomorrow?
Good luck x I know how nerve wracking this is

@SunnySideUp2020 I am so so sorry that you’re going through this too. It’s so cruel. I just wish that a positive test could guarantee a healthy pregnancy and baby. It’s such a horrible rollercoaster :( I’m going to add another photo which I think shows the lighter line xx

I think this shows it more

Have you tested anymore since those tests?

@Nikki037297 thank you so much for checking in. I tested again this morning using 2ndmu instead of 1st and it looked so much better - it gave me the confidence to do a digital and I still can’t quite believe it! Just praying and praying now that this little one sticks 💕 How are you getting on? I think I’m going to stop testing now, but will still go for beta on Thursday xx

How great @HopingForRainbow2021! So happy for you!
When I chatted with my OB-GYN about line progression he just laughed and said it doesn't prove anything. So many factors - both on your side (hydration for example) and also on the test's side. Great if the line gets darker, but a positive is a positive. Digital is something else of course.

@HopingForRainbow2021 ahhh such good news!!!

I also finally did a proper clearblue test and saw a massive progression so felt like I won't test everyday anymore.

Hope this is a healthy pregnancy for both of us!

@Bundaberg84 thank you so much. It’s so difficult to stay calm after loss - I really thought the writing was on the wall yesterday. I’m so relieved today and going to try and remain positive from now on. No more home tests!

@SunnySideUp2020 that’s brilliant news! I’m so happy for you ☺️💕 will continue hoping and praying that this is it for us, healthy pregnancies and healthy babies xxx

Good luck on your beta, keeping everything crossed for you!🤞🤞

Just came across your thread there and glad to see your frer has progressed 😌 just to say, when I got my bfp my tests were always darker with smu or in the afternoon. Don't really understand it but I think a lot of women are the same. Baby dust to you 🥰✨️

I swear I just recently saw a statistic on when to test by dpo. I remember that there was a grid, stating how many % of pregnant women will get a positive with FMU, SMU, in the evening etc. But I can't seem to find it anymore.

@HopingForRainbow2021 i also got the 2-3 on digi today! I think we are literally one day apart! (14 dpo for me i think)

@IsabelHerna @Dreamer30 thank you so much :) I am doing my best to stay calm and hopeful now. I haven't tested again and will try not to - other than the beta hcg tomorrow - which I hope they will then repeat on Monday.
@Bundaberg84 I think I found that too! In my late night googling madness. It seems that for quite a lot of women fmu isn't the best bet.
@SunnySideUp2020 that's great news! I am so happy to see that :) We are just a day apart! Do you mind me asking about your journey so far?x

@HopingForRainbow2021

We started for our first in 2019, first we had a MC, then I had some polyps removed via hysterescopy, both had treatment for ureaplasma and finally gave birth to my DD last April. I EBF but my periods still returned in July. And so this is our first bfp for #2 !

If it works out they will be exactly 9 months apart... to the day 😁

So nothing like your journey, but very much wanted baby too!

Was this an ivf cycle or you conceived naturally?

@SunnySideUp2020 wow, that's amazing! They will be so close growing up, that's lovely :)

I have a little boy who will be 6 in May, conceived naturally. We wanted a second but it hadn't happened, and then in Nov 18 DH was diagnosed with leukaemia, and we were told it wasn't safe to conceive on his medication. We had to wait until summer 2020 for a treatment break, conceived in the one month we were allowed, but miscarried. We had had sperm frozen at the same time, so went on to have all the IVF cycles last year, but we found out I have a thin lining problem that doesn't respond to meds. I have been waiting to have a hysteroscopy to investigate that (I think this is part of my anxiety about this pregnancy - I don't want lining to let me down). Then at the end of last year we found out that we had been given outdated information and that we could try to conceive naturally while DH is on his meds (massive shock that we are still coming to terms with, as all the stress, pain and cost of IVF could have been avoided). And now he we are - with a natural conception! And holding on to all the hope that this is it now :)

Apologies for the epic explanation to a simple question!