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38 nearly 39 suddenly broody

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Itonlytakesone · 30/01/2022 20:56

I think I'm going mad. Had my first child 35 via ivf now all of a sudden can't get pregnancy out of my head🙈. Need help/ advice I feel I'm too old, husband not up for it but feel like it's my body clock going crazy on me 🙊

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StandsForComfort · 30/01/2022 21:41

I'm there too! Also 38, had first DC at 34. Always wanted a second but a very difficult pregnancy and high maintenance child made it seem impossible up to now. Not sure if it's hormones or just life finally getting easier, but something's shifted.

DH also suddenly very up for it. Need to get some things sorted in the house first, but may potentially go for it before I turn 39. I don't feel like we're too old at all though!

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Itonlytakesone · 30/01/2022 21:47

@StandsForComfort

Ah good for you! Least your husbands up for it. Mines not 🤣. Our daughter is very high maintenance so that's probably why... agree with the finally life's getting easier and I'm starting her at nursery when shes 3 soon (April) just your mind starts ticking doesn't it. Definitely agree feel like I'm too old for it but still potentially able to get pregnant so not that old for it if you know what i mean. Life is tough anyway so figured what the hell. They give you so much joy don't they and it's just magical Smile

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StandsForComfort · 30/01/2022 22:05

Yes, I've started to think in for a penny in for a pound, may as well keep going in this direction! I've found it really tough-going too, but I'm telling myself that I got through it once, and I'd get through it again. They do bring so much joy, for me there's been nothing else comparable. And of course I'd be hoping for one of those nice placid babies next time Grin.

The IVF issue must make the decision a lot trickier for you....And the unwilling husband Grin. Hope it all works out for you either way. I'm looking forward to being past this stage so I don't have to constantly dither about whether to have more babies!

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Itonlytakesone · 30/01/2022 22:09

@StandsForComfort absolutely does make it trickier it'll probably not happen for me to be honest but I'd like to at least try but he's reluctant wanting things to stay as they are which I understand. Good luck to you though I think you've both decided and that's amazing for you Smile

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StandsForComfort · 30/01/2022 22:25

Totally understand you wanting to at least try. I suffer from hyperemesis during pregnancy, to the extent I don't know if I'd be able to get through another one. But I've also arrived at that feeling that I want to at least try.
Sounds like your biggest issue is your husband. Things can turn on a dime sometimes with these decisions, maybe with a little more time and discussion he'll change his mind.

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Itonlytakesone · 30/01/2022 22:37

Maybe! @StandsForComfort

Iv discussed it with him a couple of times the most recent was tonight. I didn't push it but i did say to not just dismiss it in 5 minutes and to give it some thought as it's important to me so you never know. It's such a big decision.

The severe sickness is a lot to take on I hope you'll get on ok i totally understand you wanting to attempt it again to get another baby a sibling.

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RandomMess · 30/01/2022 22:39

It is totally your hormones and the passage of time gives you rose tinted glasses over how hard the previous years were.

ladytopazdream · 30/01/2022 23:19

I'm in this place too. Have 3 year old and am now seriously thinking about TTC baby two. Also had my first at 35. I didn't enjoy pregnancy and found the early years really hard but it's definitely got easier since around age 2. I don't feel too old although realise I may not be able to get pregnant that easily or even at all which is a worry. Where I live it's normal to have babies mid to late 30s and early 40s isn't uncommon either. Thinking of getting myself in good shape over next few months and going for it in the spring.

Whelmed · 30/01/2022 23:26

I'm 40 later this year and def feeling broody, youngest is 3. Looking at tired parents and crying babies does help somewhat. I had easy pregnancies so don't mind that and would love to have one more chance at the newborn stage but anything after that seems like so much work, especially the stage where they start moving and require constant supervision. Toddler tantrums etc.

GingerFox2021 · 30/01/2022 23:37

I’m 41, trying for number 2, which is not happening! Not feeling old at all. Also, nobody ever guess my age either 🙂

LillyLeaf · 30/01/2022 23:46

Ahh the same. Ds is only 18 months after ivf and we really need to decide ASAP. I've just turned 39. DS was a pretty full on baby (colic, reflux) but is a delight now although still quite clingy with me. DP is not very keen. It's all very complicated. I had miscarriages too and together with the ivf I'm not sure I could go through all that again. We could ttc naturally I guess but I doubt it would work and I don't really fancy paying all that money again for ivf and we don't have any embryos left. I wish I could switch off the broodiness

feelsobadfeltsogood · 30/01/2022 23:59

I had dd at 35 got her to nearly 4 then went had another so was 39

Awful pregnancy it was a bit of a mistake - child is a joy but if I had my time again

Not a chance

Once they're in nursery or school that's when you can get your life back we struggled anyway and this just adds
To it

Think very carefully especially if Hisband isn't keen you could end up as a single mum

caringcarer · 31/01/2022 01:40

I think it is a sort of internal panic. Knowing you won't be able to conceive for much longer suddenly makes you want to conceive. Just before menopause you may be very fertile as your body fires out 2 eggs some months when the eggs are coming to an end. Hence if not fertilised flooding.

ladytopazdream · 31/01/2022 10:22

@feelsobadfeltsogood how old is your youngest now?
Sorry to hear you had a harder pregnancy the second time around. Was your first straight forward?
I wish I'd started at a younger age, but I met my partner late 20s, wanted to get on property ladder first which included Renovation, it then took a year to conceive. Things often don't work out according to plan for they!

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Itonlytakesone · 31/01/2022 15:07

@feelsobadfeltsogood

Totally get you, i was looking forward to the time I'd get when she goes to nursery so I get some me time finally. I probably will end up sticking to one just wonder if I'll regret not giving dd a sibling.

Are you now a single mum then?

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IsabelHerna · 01/02/2022 17:52

Oh you've got the "just under 40s" thoughts about possible future regrets. I would say try to make list and think about it as clearly as possible. Do you have the time/energy/funds for another baby? If yes then talk with your DH x

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