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Dealing with anxiety whilst TTC

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Jollygoodcarryon · 26/01/2022 18:28

I've been fairly anxious about fertility since before we started TTC (not for any particularly good reason, no known problems and have had reassurance from GP etc but I'm very definitely the worrying type!). It may be to do with the fact I'm now 34 TTC no 1 and feel that I'm running out of time (we were planning to start TTC 2 years ago but delayed for various good reasons). We're now 9 months in (11 cycles in total), plus a few additional cycles where we weren't really trying but weren't careful and DTD probably at least once during fertile week and zero luck. It's really getting me down and I can barely think of anything else at the minute. I've got into a mindset where I'm convinced there must be a problem given that I always feared there would be and now length of time and nothing. I know that all this stress probably isn't helpful (we've had some other major life stresses going in the time we've been trying too) and for all I know this could be a factor.

I'm planning to get the ball rolling with tests now in the hope of getting some answers/peace of mind but I also recognise that I need to take proactive steps to manage my anxiety. I've tried distracting myself with other non-TTC related stuff and pretending none of this is happening. Equally, I've tried fertility yoga/meditation etc which feels like I'm at least acknowledging it but I'm not sure if that's really helpful in that I'm still allowing myself to focus on TTC/fertility. Would welcome any tips/insight into what works for you in managing the anxiety about it all? Did going for tests help?

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PeanuttyButter · 26/01/2022 20:53

How's your cycles op, pretty regular? I noticed at the start of the TTC journey that they suddenly went to pot and that's because of the stress.

Dreamsofholidays78 · 27/01/2022 22:28

Hi @Jollygoodcarryon I empathise a lot.
I’m naturally a bit anxious anyway and ttc made it 10x worse. I had multiple losses and ivfs.
I didn’t really find any magic bullet to cure the anxiety. Some things that helped were talking to anyone you feel comfortable with. I talked to family, friends, even work colleagues, I stopped hiding everything.
I did weekly acupuncture which helped.
I came off social media
I found making a plan helped a lot -fertility tests, deciding at what point to do ivf etc and trying to improve health. I read it starts with the egg and followed it, did a low carb diet etc
Best of luck op ps I also fell pregnant in the worst stress situations so don’t worry stress will impact hugely. Women get pregnant in war zones

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