TTC

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Hi everyone, Im just new on here and in need of some help.

We have been trying to conceive now for about 6/7 months. This just aren't going as we had planned. We are thinking of going down to route to get both of ourselves checked as we are starting to think there could be something wrong with one of us? Are we wise or do we just contuning doing what we are doing?

I track everything as this is something we want really bad, I'm 8 DPO. I have slight cramping the past couple of days, however I got a big fat negative this morning, am i too early to be testing? I feel like I'm loosing my mind. Any help would be greatly appreciated.

If you want to get checked out you would have to do it privately which is pretty expensive as the nhs says it can take up to a year so won't help until you have been trying for a year.

It took a year for me to get pregnant with my son although I did have two miscarriages in that time

I tracked everything for the first 8 months but found it too stressful so stopped tracking everything and just tried to enjoy sex with my partner again instead of working to an agenda

8 DPO in my experience is too early to test the earliest I have had a positive test is 10 dpo but past experience has taught me to wait it out and make sure my period is late before testing

It is very stressful and all consuming when you want something so bad but I'm sure you are doing all the right things it's so cliché to say but trying to relax does really help

I wish you the best of luck

What age are you OP? If less then 35, I personally would hold tight a while longer.
It can take up to 12 months for a healthy couple to get pregnant, but I know how frustrating each "failed" month is.
If you're using an early detection pregnancy test, I'd say 8dpo is a little too early and you need to wait another day or two.
Good luck!

How old are you?

I know everyone's finances are different, but the initial privately funded fertility tests cost about £500 for a woman and less for a man. I found it a very good use of the money to direct us. It will either make you happy nothing is wrong (you could still struggle but is short term peace of mind) or you could find something that needs fixing and you will save trying for a year then going down the lengthier nhs route.

Also I will never be the one to say 'just relax it will happen' as that's the lost infuriating thing ever said.

What I will say is that TTC can take a full 12 months for a perfectly healthy couple. So try to 'enjoy'. Yes you'll inevitably think about what day of your cycle, what your plans are so you can ensure time to do the deed and when you'll test. But try not to let us overwhelm you - not that I'm implying it will have any result on the outcome, more than I think TTC can be hard when it drags on past the half year mark so try your best to still enjoy the sex / be playful / do things you 'enjoy' and what makes you feel good and if you find yourself I'm thinking about to constantly try to distract yourself or look into anxiety methods so you don't get bored / frustrated or down

How old are you OP?

Hi everyone, takes for the replies.

Makes me feel a little more sane. I'm 27 turned just, I don't thin age is the issue between myself and my husband.

I know getting checked can be costly as we have already checked out some pricing and it wasn't as bad as I originally thought at the start. I know I need to relax a little more and try to relax but trying to do so seems to be impossible for me.

There's a technique for people who suffer from anxiety that you may want to try. I will try to summarise it here but you'll find lots online.

Essentially you don't allow yourself to think and think and think about a certain topic. But you tell yourself. I will think about this tomorrow / Friday / once a week at 7pm for half an hour. And you mentally 'stop' the thoughts and think about something else and inevitably you either just keep doing that or you do sit and think at that time in a constructive way 'I will call Drs, I will research vitamins' etc

It's the constant on your mind that will make every single day / month drag.

I’m pretty much in the same position as you! We’re both 25, married and are currently on our 7th cycle of trying. I had a BFN this morning as my AF is due today but still not appeared. It’s so frustrating isn’t it especially when it seems most people our age are having lovely babies

I feel your pain, between family and friends we seem to the other ones not able to at the moment and that hurts the most. I think that’s why we are starting to amuse there is a problem with us. It’s very hard to stay positive

I started ttc aged 27, fertility consultants told us that it's perfectly normal to take up to a year to conceive. We were told that approximately 80% of couples conceived in a year and 90% in 2 years.
Also the whole trying to relax thing.... well it's easier said than done! The time we conceived I was the most stressed I had ever been.
If you want to pay for private fertility tests that's up to yous.
My advice to yous is don't make ttc a chore, still enjoy each other, enjoy sex and keep doing things you enjoy!

Hi there, were you successful in the long run?

Just think I need a bit of reassurance from other people that have been in my position, feel a bit more at ease since this post. Thanks everyone 🙂

It’s like you have me down to a tee, between the vitamins and blocking everything out or just constantly thinking about it. It’s a very vicious cycle

My OH says I’m too hard on myself but I guess it’s it’s because I want it so badly. I really hope you have some baby dust soon x

For us it was unexplained infertility as all of our tests came back normal! We were pretty chilled about it for the first year as we were young and knew it was normal to take up to a year.
Ended up going for IVF after 2.5 years and that cycle didn't work.
We were so stressed!! Head and body messed up etc and conceived naturally! Now I had a beautiful 2 year old!

Congratulations, that’s wonderful for you 🙂

Fingers crossed we both do x