Pregnancy loss experiences

[LuckyWithMyLot]

Sadly, we found out at a private scan today that baby stopped growing at 6 weeks and there was no heartbeat. Should have been 7+5.
We were told to come for a re scan in 2 weeks but I was wondering if there were any quicker options than this?
Should I contact my GP? I haven't had any cramps or bleeding.

So sorry, this was me last Thursday too. I called my Early Pregnancy Unit first thing next morning and they got me in for a scan that day. If you have one at your local hospital I’d definitely give them a call.

Oh that's really good to know, I'll give them a call tomorrow.

If they won’t let you self-refer GP is your next call, but either way it will be quicker than 2 weeks.

Yes you need to call EPU

This was me last Tuesday. Sadly my miscarriage started naturally on Friday. EPU also asked me to wait 2 weeks between scans so I have to go back next week to check all the tissue has gone. Hope you are feeling ok xx

This had happened to
Me twice. I'm sorry for your loss. I'm afraid the two week wait is important, as they want to make sure your dates are right and that baby just isn't toon small for heartbeat. They won't intervene before then (although sometimes shorten to 10 days).

You may experience spontaneous loss/. Bleeding before then.

Ring EPU and they will advise. I found it helpful to know what the options would be at this stage, even though I had to wait.

If anyone is interested, there’s a long-running MC support thread:
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/miscarriage/4380452-Support-thread-for-those-experiencing-or-recently-experienced-a-MC-MMC-Thread-5-ALL-welcome?msgid=114167752#114167752

These replies are really helpful. Thank you all for taking the time. I'm hoping things start naturally over the next week and will call EPU tomorrow for advice.
I didn't have many pregnancy symptoms so had a bad feeling something wasn't 100%, which is why I booked the scan.

I'm afraid this happened to me 3 years ago. My private scan was on the Saturday and DH then called the epu, we were booked in for a scan at the hospital on the Monday morning.

I called my EPU who advised to go back for the private scan in 1-2 weeks. If a missed miscarriage is confirmed, they will then see me.
It's frustrating I need to pay another £80 but I do understand.
I've not had any cramping or bleeding so I expect I'm going to need assistance with the miscarriage :(

@LuckyWithMyLot I’m sorry they’ve said that, it’s not really good enough and you shouldn’t need to pay for medical treatment and I don’t agree with it at all. I’d call again for a scan at the epu. Fabricate spotting and cramps if necessary.

@HippeePrincess I did say to my DH I should do this but then I thought they may take this as a sign of the miscarriage starting so would send me home for it to happen naturally.

If it becomes too much mentally I may do this in a few days time. I'm finding this really hard to cope with.

@LuckyWithMyLot

I called my EPU who advised to go back for the private scan in 1-2 weeks. If a missed miscarriage is confirmed, they will then see me. It's frustrating I need to pay another £80 but I do understand. I've not had any cramping or bleeding so I expect I'm going to need assistance with the miscarriage :(

This is unacceptable. You're asking for NHS treatment and being refused, they're not allowed to do this. I'd be phoning them back up and saying that you'll be there on Monday. Or, just turn up. What a disgrace.

Can you speak to your GP? That’s not really on, they should see you, as they’ll most likely want to scan you themselves anyway because your private scan won’t be added to your NHS record.

I'm sorry OP it's a very difficult time. I'm sorry but I wouldn't accept that answer from EPU. You are entitled to their care. The wonder of our NHS. I would ring back and ask to speak to someone else - you shouldn't have to pay private for this it's difficult for you as it is

Thanks everyone. The EPU said I couldn't see them without a GP referral anyway so I'm thinking I'll call the GP in a few days and asked to be referred for a scan. I may fabricate some cramps if needs be.

It's all so shit as the only reason they're making me do a 2nd scan is in case my dates are wrong but I'm 100% sure they're not. Going from my first pregnancy test, the earliest I could be is 7+2 and the baby measures 6+1 with no HB so it's very obviously a non viable pregnancy. I know they have procedures but it's frustrating. Doesn't help I'm nauseous and tired today, just want this over with.

Hey @LuckyWithMyLot, just checking to see if you managed to get anywhere with a GP referral?

Hey @sunbird24 , my GP was happy to refer me to the EPU who said they'd accept the private scan report and scan me 7 days later to confirm the loss.
I had my scan yesterday where baby still measured 6+1 with no heartbeat so a mmc was confirmed.
I had all of the options available for management but would have had to wait 6 days for a d&c or 7 days for an MVA so I've opted for medical management. I've taken the first tablet yesterday and then have to insert 4 tablets tomorrow.
I'm feeling really anxious after reading stories online, especially as I can't take the Codeine prescribed because I'm breastfeeding :/

I’m glad you didn’t have to wait as long, hopefully your experience will be relatively stress-free. Remember that nobody ever really shares their stories of MCs unless they’re a bit traumatic. I had medical management for my first 20 years ago and didn’t need any painkillers at all.

Thank you for sharing this, that's reassuring. My DH is staying home and his parents will be around to look after our toddler so at least I have good support. I hope it's over quickly!

@LuckyWithMyLot

Hey *@sunbird24* , my GP was happy to refer me to the EPU who said they'd accept the private scan report and scan me 7 days later to confirm the loss. I had my scan yesterday where baby still measured 6+1 with no heartbeat so a mmc was confirmed. I had all of the options available for management but would have had to wait 6 days for a d&c or 7 days for an MVA so I've opted for medical management. I've taken the first tablet yesterday and then have to insert 4 tablets tomorrow. I'm feeling really anxious after reading stories online, especially as I can't take the Codeine prescribed because I'm breastfeeding :/

I'm so sorry for your loss and that you also have to go through these extra traumatic steps, I had a MC last night after spotting lightly for a week it was my first pregnancy. I started bleeding yesterday lunchtime after only seeing my Gp to notify her of my pregnancy as the day went on the bleeding got worse and cramps . I passed the pregnancy about 11 - 12 hours after the bleeding started. I'm ok today cramps have gonna I'm tired and few people have said I'm pale or look tired but other than that I'm ok . Thinking of you x

I just wanted to say I'm so sorry you're going through this @LuckyWithMyLot. I had medical management at the end of November and my dates were very similar to yours. I'll be honest with you and say the passing of everything was very intense for me, but it lasted about an hour and a half and then everything just stopped. After that, there was about 2 weeks of normal bleeding. Wishing you all the best, it's really tough to go through mentally ❤️

@LizzeyBenett, @Cruz86 sorry you’ve both gone through this too. There’s a link up thread to a general MC support thread if you feel like it, but no expectations.

Your messages do mean a lot. It's nice to know we're not alone. It does somehow lessen the pain.

I took the Misoprostol today and so far it has been a very easy process for me. Minimal cramping; like a mild period and some clots and bleeding. I think I passed the little embryo about 10 hours after the tablets. No pain. I hope this reassures anyone else facing this experience that it doesn't have to be painful.

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