Trying to conceive after mmc at 41

[Maisey2021]

Hi everyone, I'm totally new here and I'm probably starting a thread here that's been repeated many times but looking for some encouragement /positivity. I had a missed miscarriage last year and it was really hard. We had just started trying and felt very lucky to have conceived so easily and then total deflation and devastation. Five months later and my period has arrived this evening and I'm so disappointed - I was a few days late and had started to get my hopes up. I'm 42 this year and so aware of my age but trying not to stress or worry as it doesn't help - does anyone have any positive stories of things working out at this age or any advice on how to cope with the waiting every month and subsequent disappointment?

@Maisey2021 I am sorry for your loss. It’s a frightening and heartbreaking experience to go through. I experienced a missed miscarriage in Feb 21 then again in Dec 21 so we are about to start the ttc cycle again.
For me I found noting my cycle length helped prepare me for when it came. Before my mmc I was regular 27/28 days then after My cycle moved between 26-32 days. I tracked discharge before my period and other wee things that would let me know my period was incoming opposed to letting the hours and days go by in the hope that we were pregnant. This helped me mentally deal with the deflation when my period arrived. I also spoke to my partner when the signs started later than expected and shared my sadness / frustration as it’s pointless bottling it up and keeping it to myself. This only made me feel worse. You’re in this together and I found it good to talk. After the pain of my period arriving, a day or 2 later I decided to focus on the next opportunity to fall pregnant. I tried to see the positive of the next chance.
I’ve learned from mmc 2 that there’s nothing you can do to control natures course but what you can try and do is get some control of understanding your cycle better to help prepare you.

Finally I tracked my fertile days too so I could recognise that we were doing the best we can to fall pregnant. My partner works shifts so some months we had a smaller chance to conceive and I think I am ok with this as we are doing what we can and being realistic

I don’t know if this post offers you any help. I will be using these coping mechanisms again once things settle after mmc 2. I wish us and all the other older ladies the best of luck trying to become mums