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TTC after Stillbirth

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emma1103 · 08/01/2022 21:07

My son was stillborn in November at 30 weeks, and I'm so desperate to be pregnant again. I've had my first period, and have been having unprotected sex in the hope of getting pregnant. Has anyone been in a similar situation, how long did it take you to concieve?

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OCM19 · 08/01/2022 21:10

Hi @emma1103. I am sorry to hear your son was born sleeping. What was his name?

I didn’t want to read and run. I haven’t been in this position, but my brother’s son was born sleeping at full term last January. His wife is now 16 weeks pregnant with another boy. Wishing you all the best Flowers

Arewethebadguys · 08/01/2022 21:24

I'm so sorry you've been through this. We lost our daughter last year and we miss her every day. I hope you have people around you who you can talk to and can share memories of your beautiful boy with. What was his name? To answer your question, I felt exactly how you are feeling now and we conceived three months later. Our beautiful girl is sleeping beside me now, she's 4 months. I wish you all the luck in the world Flowers

BeverlyGoldnerd · 08/01/2022 21:26

My first child was stillborn at 41 weeks. A year and 3 days later my second child was born at 38 weeks. The first birth was pretty traumatic to both body and soul, so I think I must have conceived fairly quickly. It was over 20 years ago, so the details are a bit hazy.
I am truly sorry for your loss Flowers

MummyMe87 · 08/01/2022 21:27

I’m sorry to read about your loss.
Have you had all your follow up appts and results from blood tests/placenta/swabs/post-mortem yet? If not, it’s a really good idea to wait for that appt before becoming pregnant, incase they find something which is important in helping prevent it happening again in a subsequent pregnancy. Sorry if that sounds super blunt, it comes from a very kind place lovely.

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emma1103 · 08/01/2022 21:38

Thank you everyone. My sons name was Luke. He was beautiful and looked just like his sister.

I havent had my post mortem results yet. I've been told it could take up to 6 months, and mentally, i just dont think i can wait that long. Trying again is the only thing keeping me going. X

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leeds205 · 08/01/2022 21:41

Sorry to hear about your loss. We experienced the loss of our first baby at 37 weeks. I can totally relate to your feeling of need to get pregnant ASAP as it feels like the only thing that will help you feel better. We waited 6 months before trying again as were advised that this increased the likelihood of a good outcome with the next baby and allows physical recovery. Our second baby safely arrived 15months after our first and we have been blessed with 2 others since then. However, what I did not appreciate at the time is that a new baby or babies cannot ease the loss of your first in all ways. I love my 3 with all my heart and soul yet after each birth I cried as they still could not be the one we lost (if that makes sense). Allow yourself to grieve for the little boy you could not keep so that you can be a strong and healthy mum for your future children. Wishing you all the best x

MummyMe87 · 08/01/2022 21:41

Luke is such a beautiful name ♥️

6months is a long time for PM results. I’m sorry they’ve quoted that length of time, I’m used to 3months.

Journeylikenomother · 08/01/2022 21:58

@emma1103. I'm so sorry for your loss. Luke is a lovely name for a little boy.
After years of infertility and 2 ivf rounds, I lost my little girl at 37 weeks last February. True knot in her cord. It was soul destroying having to go back to more ivf after losing her but I'm please to say - two rounds later - I'm 16 weeks pregnant.
I desperately wanted to get pregnant asap and once I did become pregnant I just wanted to skip to being heavily pregnant... I've since been learning to take time in small chunks and not think too far ahead. Both anxious and excited now and just trying to keep my head on my shoulders.
I joined a support group with other "stillborn" mums.. two were pregnant within 4 mths and for others - like me - it took a bit longer.
Sending you lots of love and courage, I know how hard this is xxx

WorriedGiraffe · 08/01/2022 22:13

I felt like you and started TTC straight away after our baby was stillborn at 35 weeks (we new the reason why, but was told it would not reoccur), so started TTC in the June, conceived in the October. It gave me a reason to try and be healthy, but I did find the pregnancy and first few months after birth really difficult as all the milestones were at a similar time to my stillborn babies. Sorry to hear about your son Flowers sands are brilliant, and we also found our aching arms bear was lovely to receive, I recommend looking them up if you’ve not heard of them Flowers

Labhra87 · 08/01/2022 22:19

I'm so sorry. Prayers.

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