Another miscarriage on the way :(

[flowerpower8]

This morning I woke up feeling ill as usual at 7w4d. I then started to feel feverish and dizzy and once that subsided, my pregnancy symptoms just vanished - cramping and stretching feelings, sickness, sore boobs, everything. My cervix has opened and is hard. I’ve had all the investigations and a round of IVF and my diagnosis is bad eggs. I’m 38 and in total despair. Has anyone been in my position and had success?

@flowerpower8 I didn't want to read and run, but have no advice. Just sending you my love and hoping for the best xx

@Kay00 thank you for your kindness!

So sorry, OP. I've no personal experience of IVF I'm afraid, though I did have a miscarriage followed by another pregnancy that looked as if it would end in miscarriage but didn't. Anyway, I appreciate that your circumstances are different but I do know of others who've been in your position and gone on to have success including a friend who has almost two-year-old twins now (she is 42 now).

Hi op , don’t assume the worse, have you got any bleeding? You could pay for a private scan to see what is happening

Thanks so much @Flamingpantoufles and @Boombangboom - I’ve woken up to still no symptoms and very bad cramping so just waiting for the blood now. I’m so heartbroken. I miscarry so often that I haven’t told anybody I’m pregnant this time around - I’m kind of glad about that but feeling pretty alone. Its hard to even look at my daughter’s face on days like these! I appreciate all your support.

I’m really sorry to hear this. Mine was assumed to be bad eggs too (40) it was actually more likely immune issues. I had 4 losses and now have my rainbow.
If you PM me I can let you know who I saw etc I wish I’d found out earlier about immunes.
I hope you’re not in too much pain, big hugs to you

@flowerpower8 I'm so sorry, I don't have any advice but sending you so much love ❤️ we're all here for you

@flowerpower8 just wanted to send best wishes and say I'm so sorry you are going through this. How are things today? Is there anyone in real life you could talk to?

@Sassy144 thank you so much, I know that, unfortunately, I’m not alone in this experience and there are so many tough women out there who have endured a lot worse. I hope things are good for you at the moment! Xx

@Flamingpantoufles your message means a lot! I have my partner to talk to, although my family don’t approve of all this trying and miscarrying (why can’t I just be happy with one child) and my dearest friends are childless by choice. I’m looking up some counselling for extra support. You’re so lovely for offering support xx

How do you know your cervix is open

How are you doing? I think I’m also having a second mc today at 7+5. Just waiting for the inevitable to happen :(

@flowerpower8 Sorry just seen your message from yesterday. Sorry to hear you don't have much support IRL, I suppose partly perhaps they are trying to protect you but it must be very difficult not to be able to have people to talk to about it. How are you today?

@Ohbums I went to tentatively check because before my losses my cervix positions itself like for a period - and it was RIGHT THERE! Hard to miss. I should stress that I’m a miscarriage veteran by now and I know my body but this is not a sign of anything bad in general. I guess I also knew in my heart the pregnancy was over.

@Rrrob so sorry to hear your news - I really hope things turn out to be fine with you. I did bleed with my healthy pregnancy at around this point and all was well. It’s such a s*show after you’ve had a loss isn’t it?!?! Let me know how you’re going.

@Flamingpantoufles i don’t blame my family, they have low tolerance for anything upsetting really! And there is not a loss among them so hard for them to understand what it’s like. It was a tough night (emotionally) but getting to work ordering more supplements and organic food boxes and all that, just to feel I’m doing something. Thank you for checking in xx

Hey @flowerpower8 just checking in to see how you are today? I had a private scan today and saw a heartbeat. Now stressing about other things (dd1 had a severe genetic condition and died when she was 1) if we get to 12 weeks. I really hope things are ok. I’m sure you’ve tried this, but aspirin and progesterone were the things I was planning for next time if this was a mc.

@Rrrob I’m absolutely delighted for you - and I’m just so sorry to hear what you’ve been through. It must be unimaginably hard and I think you’re amazing and tough to have got to this stage. I have been given progesterone by the specialist to use after ovulation and hopefully make my uterus a bit more fussy - I’ve never conceived using the progesterone in this way, probably because I don’t make good embryos - but I didn’t use it on this one cycle as we’d just finished a round of IVF and I didn’t make a single blastocyst and I thought chances of conceiving were so low. Won’t make that mistake again…! Happy and healthy 9 months to you, and beyond. All my thoughts are with you xxx