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Early pregnancy, aged 41, after 2 loses... I'm freaking out

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pmtqueen · 04/01/2022 13:19

Hey guys, I'm just going to journal here I think. I'm guarded about telling people yet and I'm currently shielding as covid has gone nuts and I don't want to risk anything at all so I'm feeling a bit isolated.
I'm a healthy, active 41 year old.
I got pregnant unexpectedly in August, it was a shock but my partner and I were delighted. Unfortunately I miscarried a few weeks later, my HCG was always quite a bit short of doubling and I was expecting it.
Then after one period I fell straight on in October, got excited this time as it was planned so id been taking all the vitamins and really looking after myself. It was a chemical and I miscarried just 3 days later.

Found out on Boxing Day that I was pregnant again. I'm just numb. I'm now in the very certain position of either having a baby or a miscarriage... both are so wildly different that the limbo has me numb.
Because of the timing (Christmas holidays) and my recent history I haven't rushed to the docs, don't want to get my hopes up or tonnes of tests as I find it stressful...
My two original pregnancy tests were 2 days before my period was due and were both a very definite dark line. I'm now 5+1 (I tracked my period and ovulation).
For reassurance reasons I just did a clear blue digital, how many weeks test, and it came up 3+ (which is 5weeks plus re doctors measuring guides) which I'm hoping means that my HCG is testing high.
Anyway, I just wanted to put it out there and if anyone else is in a similar position I'm here to chat x

Early pregnancy, aged 41, after 2 loses... I'm freaking out
OP posts:
Newbiemg · 04/01/2022 18:16

Hello OP

Not in a similar position but very sorry to hear of your losses and wishing you lots of luck Flowers

Wanted to give your post a little bump

Santaisstilleatingmincepies · 04/01/2022 18:21

I had a dc at 43. 2 op. Congratulations!

Furbabymum15 · 04/01/2022 19:03

Hello. Congratulations I hope this is a sticky one for you.
I'm 43 ttc after 3 consecutive miscarriages.... We only managed to dtd on Friday afternoon and I think I ovulated today so prob too big of a gap but fingers crossed x

Snoopy28x · 04/01/2022 19:11

Hi @pmtqueen so sorry about your losses. I am 40 have dd5 and ds2. I had 3 mc, 1 before ds and 2 after. We decided that was it for us. Then got pregnant again.. the wait was horrendous. I'd made it to 11 weeks with my 3 mc. However this one has been a sticky one and I am now 20 weeks. I know it's so worrying in the early stages but please please stay positive until proven otherwise. As it will drive you loopy.

I will keep everything crossed for you!! Can you book an early reassurance scan to put your mind at ease a little? Xx

runningpram · 06/01/2022 10:18

Hiya
Congratulations! I'm in the same boat. 2-3 weeks pregnant with no 2 and 41 after 2 prior losses. It's definitely quite nerve-wracking isn't it!
Last time round I found myself going slightly nuts - so I'm trying to stay calm and optimistic this time and eat as healthy as I can.
I've booked an appointment with a fertility clinic to see if there's anything more I do to boost my chances.
Hope all is going well with you x

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