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Conception

When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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Pregnancy after miscarriage

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PamelaDoov · 04/01/2022 12:23

How long did it take others to get pregnant after a second trimester loss? We lost our baby at 17 weeks and I am just desperate to go back to normal and start again. It’s only been a few days so I know it will take a few weeks before my cycles start again.
I also don’t feel like I’m ever going to enjoy pregnancy again after this. I won’t ever feel safe.
But I’d go through it all 100 times again if it meant I could have another baby.

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PamelaDoov · 04/01/2022 17:59

Anyone?

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Poseypops · 04/01/2022 23:39

Sorry for your loss, I didn’t want to read an run. I can’t relate fully but I did have a pregnancy following a miscarriage and I certainty did feel more anxious but like you I felt that was worth it for the end result. I thought through ways to keep myself calm and rational so that might be worth doing?

In terms of timing make sure you give yourself time and plan together to TTC when the time is right. Have the medical professionals said anything about timing? Is there anything you need to know or discuss with them before TTC?

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PamelaDoov · 05/01/2022 10:06

No they just said wait to have one period first, simply so that they can work out the dates easier. I’ve been tracking my cycle for years and know when I’ve ovulated so I don’t feel the need to wait, I’ll be able to work out the dates.

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pinkpepperclove · 05/01/2022 10:54

I had a missed miscarriage in September, it was quite a process for my hormones to normalise however what I have noticed is my ovulation is completely different than before. Didn't manage to conceive in November however We are now 2-3 weeks pregnant from testing in December. I ovulated REALLY late.

My recommendation would be to ignore the apps and ovulate test every single day. I think we wouldn't have been so lucky this time if I had gone through the motions with my dates I was previously used to pre miscarriage.

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PamelaDoov · 05/01/2022 11:06

@pinkpepperclove oh yeah I won’t just go by the apps. I’m pretty good at reading my body as well as tracking on the app.
Glad to hear you’ve had a positive outcome so far, good luck!

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pinkpepperclove · 05/01/2022 11:35

I am so sorry for your loss, I hear lots of people the following month be successful. Fingers crossed for you

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PamelaDoov · 05/01/2022 11:54

@pinkpepperclove thank you I really hope so. I’m so desperate to be pregnant again. Even though I’ll be a few months behind where I should be, it’ll feel like I’m just restarting the journey.

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ShootingStar94 · 05/01/2022 12:03

I'm so sorry for your loss. Mine was at 20 weeks. Like you I was advised to wait until my period had returned, which was five weeks later and I got pregnant that cycle. I did have some complications which may or may not have been due to having back to back pregnancies, we aren't sure, and he ended up being born at 34 weeks, but he is now two months old and doing very well.

I felt the same, I was desperate to get pregnant again and the pregnancy was a very anxious time, but I would go through the stress 100 times over for my baby.

Be gentle with yourself, you and your body have been through a lot, so allow yourself to feel whatever you feel and grieve the baby you have lost. They will always be a part of you

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