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Everyone is pregnant around me and I really want to be

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Hope123 · 22/12/2007 19:37

Ive just had a miscarriage and I really want to get pregnant again.Ive spent the last few weeks attending births celebrations,baby showers,Christenings etc and I can't help but feel sad and sorry for myself and like it won't happen for me.It is totally irrational as I have one daughter and I havent been ttc for that long since mc.I dont want to get resentful of other people and their happiness because I'm not that kind of person at all.Has anyone else every felt like this?

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Holly78 · 22/12/2007 20:50

Hi Hope, i totally understand how you feel...i got a bfp 2 weeks ago and now i have lost the pg and everywhere i go i feel surrounded by babies.... not only that they all seem to be newborn and whenever i turn on tv all i see are babies....its just horrible and i don't like feeling resentful of people.... but my dp's ex wife is pg with her second baby due in 2months and has asked us to look after her toddler while she's in labour! i actually get on very well with her me and dp have been together 11 yrs and have supported her and his daughter with her but i feel jealous and hurt that i will look after her child when she is having another when all i want to do is hold my own. We have 2 dd with each other but i have wanted another for about 3 yrs now...You are not alone hun x

Holly78 · 22/12/2007 20:53

OMG...watching casualty while typing and a woman suffering mc...really can't escape it at all....

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Hope123 · 22/12/2007 21:57

I'm sure it will happen for us both.Then we can have the excitement of getting ready for a new arrival.It is really hard my DH's brother and sister are both about to become parents,both with boys (I really want a little boy) and two of my friends are pregnant.It's all anyone can talk about.
I dont want to become obsessed with conceiving or terried things will go wrong again but I can't wait to get a BFP!

Agghh!,stop watching Casualty,admittedly there is not much else on but even celebrities singing Silent Night must be more pleasant viewing :-)

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Yorky · 22/12/2007 22:08

I know what you mean, SIL is pg on first try, and her bridesmaid is about 2wks ahead of her, and her sister just had a chemical pg which doesn't count as I think I'd rather not be pg than lose one, but I still wish I was and am not being very patient about it!

sambrads · 23/12/2007 09:33

hi ya holly and hope!!!

i no what you both mean i have been trying for months now and nothing and my doc said i was not ovulating so has put me on clomid.
i am so nervous as mc are common .
my sis just had baby on 19th and thats all im seeing at the moment and its hard!!

i was up at the hospital and they were short of beds and she was on a ward were women are induced and all you could here was women sucking on gas and air and i was wishing it was me!!!!(mad or what???) haha

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Hope123 · 23/12/2007 11:28

Hi Sambrads..it is horrible waiting every month

I'm convincing myself have got pregnancy symptoms this month but pretty sure its going to be PMT..have felt queazy which got me thinking, but feel like I am getting my hopes up only to be disappointed.

I am organising a baby shower for my SIL as she loves all the American style stuff and really wanted one.I am so pleased for her but can't help feeling a bit hollow too.

It's reassuring to know I'm not the only one with baby-envy!

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Cosmogirl · 23/12/2007 14:13

Hope - you are definitely not the only one with baby-envy...trust me! My SIL has just announced she is 6 weeks with second preg....Her and my BIL got together after me and my DH, married before us and are now on 2nd preg...meanwhile, DH and I haven't started trying yet. As crazy as it is, I can't help feeling a bit bitter - I really thought the next announcement would be ours....Wanting a baby is such a strong emotion though that is hard to control these feelings no matter how irrational they are.

TheMNPeacekeepingForce · 23/12/2007 14:32

Hope - sorry to hear about your mc but honestly it isn't unnatural at all to feel the way you do just because you already have a child. Look up secondary infertility on the internet and you'll find more info. It's a term used to describe those who are having trouble creating subsequent children when they already have one. Ok so your situation is slightly different with the mc but the thoughts are pretty similar.

I do hope 2008 will be your year to have no 2.

sambrads · 24/12/2007 11:48

every month i had sore boobs and never felt like i was going to have my period but every month was the same thing it came !!!!!!!

its really upsetting no matter how many kids you alresdy have but i have started to think new year new start new baby 9hopefully)

viksam · 26/12/2007 19:13

hi everyone, i am new to this, have never posted on a forum before. Not sure what all the initials mean at the mo but im sure i will catch on, feel thick!! I have been ttc for three and a half years with no luck, going in for lap and dye on 9th jan. Had to spend xmas with SIL who is due on 1st jan! i am feeling it too and am struggling to stay positive so sympathise really.

viksam · 26/12/2007 19:19

just found the acroynm list, hurrah!!

sambrads · 27/12/2007 08:56

hi ya viksam

my sis just ahd a baby and i am really feeling it to but we have to stay positive a new year a new baby

kd73 · 27/12/2007 09:26

I think the feelings of envy are quite natural, my friend even admitted to being envious of my mc - her opinion being "at least you got pg"

Anyway, I had been trying since Oct 2004 and had a lap and dye in Mar. I was told that there was no reason to explain my infertility so when I was ready I could start clomid. I decided to wait a couple of months to see if anything happened - we were delighted to announce pg in July. Unfortunately we had a m/c in August, but I am again pg (fingers crossed everything will be ok).

I hope this gives you some hope and that the lap and dye goes well on 9th Jan, Viksam

viksam · 27/12/2007 12:11

Thanks guys, the support on here is wicked, ur right sambrads we do have to stay positive.
Im wondering about whether anyone tells people whats going on? Close family like mom and sis know but others dont. I havent told the boss what my op is about.
I dont really talk to anyone about how i feel so it was a revelation to find you guys and its so good to know people have the same feelings as i do. My DH is great but he doesnt understand, he thinks we shouldn't meddle and we should let nature take its course and see what happenes, he doesnt get it at all so i dont try and explain anymore. Does anyone else have that problem too?

sambrads · 28/12/2007 11:57

hi ya kd73 did you fall pregnant using clomid????

viksam i totally understand my husband thinks that women are born to have babies and that it will only take a matter of time cause we already have ds but i am having fertility problems now but he wont except that!!!

i have only told my dh and of course you lot but to be honhest i am a bit embarrased and dont feel like a real women cause i cant do this myself

i do think that you should take what ever help you can get from the doctor clomid is my only hope at the minute so hopefully it works i took last tablet yesterday so just waiting on prime time!!!

sorry about the length of this!!!!

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Hope123 · 29/12/2007 11:18

I'm trying to feel optimistic that I will get pregnant in the New Year..bit worried that m/c has messed up my AF.I have always been regular as clockwork but I'm now 3 days late but negative on pregnancy test.

If my AF are irregular how can you work out when you ovulate?

Being off the Pill is horrible as I have PMT for two weeks and feel like the world is ending,It is a lot better when I am on the Pill.Life just feels very stressful at the mo and all the worry about ttc is making me feel fed up with everything.

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sambrads · 29/12/2007 18:47

hi ya hope123 i have the same problem as you as my af is irregular the doctor says you can ovulate between day 14 and 20 of your cycle depending on how long your cycle is!!

its so frustrating i no but i think you should just do it every other night and alot more when you think your ovulating !!!

doc says 3 times a week is loads but you dont want to miss those important days !!!

viksam · 29/12/2007 19:30

I am glad that other people have the husband thing going on and also the feeling of not being all woman too, cheers sambrads for that!
Hope123 it is nasty the whole ttc thing. I dont think people understand just how much it can get you down.
Regarding ovulation, has anyone used a tester, i have been wondering wether to invest in one. They are quite alot of money, does anyone think they are worth it?

kd73 · 30/12/2007 22:17

Sambrads - We were due to commence Clomid in August 07, however discovered pregnancy in late July . We then decided we would go back to fertility in Jan 08 for advice, but instead we have a midwife appointment

Hope123 - My cycle was very irregular ranging from 29 - 37 days. It was better after laparoscopy but still difficult to pin down a day for AF to arrive. We used ovulation kits, although for me it wasn't much help. Best indication is the EWCM, keep an eye out for it!

Viksam - I hope your op goes well.

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