25 & TTC

[MrsJ6921]

6 months TTC and loosing all hope! My DH and I are TTC #1, we’re both 25, fit & healthy, and recently married. Recently I’ve really felt the disappointment of not having a BFP so far and today was the first time I could’ve cried over hearing the news that someone we know is pregnant.

I’m wondering if anyone is in a similar situation in that they’ve never had even a glimmer of a BFP? We’ve been together nearly 6 years and in this time we’ve never used contraception and instead followed my cycle and used the pulling out method (which was great at the time) however thinking about it now I can’t help but think that our dreams of having a baby may never happen?

I also started my period when I was 9 but have been told that this should not be an issue in regards to my fertility. I also think this time of the year is really rubbish for those TTC please tell me I’m not alone feeling this crap 😅

I was 24 when we started TTC, took us 19 months and it was SOUL DESTROYING. I was not prepared for the emotional roller coaster we ended up on. I'm now 27 and have an 8 month old who I could not be more grateful for. And when we have a bad night I think about how I used to ache for him to be here and it makes it all better.
So I feel your pain massively. Could be a massive coincidence but I tried vitamins, weight loss, diet changes, everything the Internet had to offer and we caught the first month we used conceive plus lube.
I tracked basal temperatures, cycle days, did the SMEP plan and that was what seemed to have worked for us, some cheap lube!!

@Katlow

I was 24 when we started TTC, took us 19 months and it was SOUL DESTROYING. I was not prepared for the emotional roller coaster we ended up on. I'm now 27 and have an 8 month old who I could not be more grateful for. And when we have a bad night I think about how I used to ache for him to be here and it makes it all better. So I feel your pain massively. Could be a massive coincidence but I tried vitamins, weight loss, diet changes, everything the Internet had to offer and we caught the first month we used conceive plus lube. I tracked basal temperatures, cycle days, did the SMEP plan and that was what seemed to have worked for us, some cheap lube!!

Thank you! I’m so happy to hear you got your baby after all that time. We’ve used preseed for the past 3 months and I was taking the seven seas vitamins but they really messed my cycle up so I swapped them for Folic Acid. My DH also takes multivitamins just as a regular thing anyway. We DTD every other day, track cycles etc but I honestly just feel at a loss! I’m hoping for a literal miracle 🤞🏻

It's perfectly normal to take up to a year to conceive. Please don't loose hope!

It took DH (then 32) and I (then 24) 11 months to conceive our first together, it was soul destroying every month when my period arrived. Our daughter is now 11 years old so don’t give up hope. If you haven’t been successful after 12 months then speak to your GP.

Have you been tracking ovulation? Having regular sex? I think this is where we went wrong initially because we kind of just expected it to happen easily. I won’t say try not to stress because that is impossible but be kind to yourself and each other.

I’m 35 now and DH is 43, we are in our first cycle of trying for our second, we are both much older now so expect a much more difficult journey this time and don’t know whether it will happen at all, so all we can do is try.

Good luck and sending hugs hugs.

I'm 26 and my partner is 32 ttc no2 however no1 is 8 and wasn't conceived for 10 months! This time round I've had two m/c but now actively ttc for 4 months and nothing yet! 6 months isn't long xxx

Get a private semen analysis. For your own sanity, if nothing else.

Your story is very similar to mine. DP and I used withdrawal for YEARS and never had an oopsie. Started TTC at 26. It has now been just over 3 years and still nothing. It turns out my DP has a varicocele which has rendered him basically infertile. I wish I had known much sooner because I wasted so much time and emotional energy. I stopped drinking alcohol and coffee, I tried all sorts of supplements, I even ate pineapple cores for breakfast, ffs. Absolute madness.

You might be fine; it's normal to take up to a year to get pregnant, and actually getting pregnant is more difficult than we are led to believe. However, I am suspicious of the fact that you've been using a notoriously unreliable contraception method for to long without issue.