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The 12 month mark..

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Wishing1986 · 23/12/2021 16:03

To anyone who understands,

I am really down and really struggling to smile today. I was two days late….cycle 12 and had started to believe I was going to be giving my husband the best Christmas surprise of baby #2 however last night that daydream was ripped from me with the arrival of AF. I was devastated.
Just now my friend has text to share her wonderful news-she’s pregnant with baby #2, from our conversations I suspect it happened very quickly 1/2 months max. I am beyond happy for her but the timing of that announcement when I was already feeling gutted has just knocked the wind out of me. I remember AF arriving last Christmas Day and although disappointed I quickly got over it thinking it would happen soon enough. I cannot believe a year later and I’m still nowhere near baby #2.
I’ve been to the GP, they did some bloods that came back normal apparently although they’ve never told me what they are. Husband has had a semen analysis which we’re still waiting the results of despite having it done in October. Other than that the GP hasn’t been that helpful. There was mention of a referral to a gynaecologist or ultrasound. He said he’d have a word with a colleague and let me know- that was 3 weeks ago and I’ve heard nothing since. Now can’t get an appointment because covid! I was diagnosed with under active thyroid at the beginning of the year which came as a bit of a surprise, I’d read that NICE guidelines state I should be referred to an endocrinologist given I’m ttc but the GP said there would be no point. I don’t know where else to go or what I can do, I don’t know anyone who has been in this position so have no one that understands where my head is or how much this hurts and my poor husband is trying his best to keep me going but he will never understand how i feel in this moment. I guess I just needed to vent 😢

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Moonshine160 · 23/12/2021 23:06

Hi OP. Didn’t want to read and run Flowers

I am also TTC#2 and finding it difficult, each month that AF arrives is a blow and the first day is particularly hard. I don’t have any advice really but I’m sending you a hand hold.

Once Christmas is over and the vaccine rollout calms down then please contact your GP again and ask for referrals. In the meantime, sending lots of positivity and baby dust your way x

RubyRainbows · 24/12/2021 00:34

@Wishing1986 hi! I can’t say that I’m in exactly the same situation as you but your post did resonate with me!

I’m ttc #1 and have never been pg before, but have been ttc for just over 12 months so I do know how hard the 12 month mark can be. I also remember last Christmas thinking it would be the last one before I had children or was pregnant - little did I know! And I get what you mean when friends/family are of and you’re not - I’ve had neighbours/friends telling me their happy news and have been finding it so difficult to see or speak to them when I’m feeling so upset about everything! I’m not looking for sympathy - I know that lots of people have been trying for much longer than I have or have suffered losses etc. But I did want to say that I do understand lots of what you were describing in your post!

Sorry that I can’t be of any help! I really hope that next year brings you some happy news and that you can enjoy this Christmas with your family!

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