Is all hope lost?

[IsAllHopeLost123]

Just wondering if anyones been in a similar position who can advise.

I just stopped breastfeeding my 9 month old about 2 weeks. We’ve not been not trying if you know what I mean so I’ve been doing pregnancy tests every few weeks. Last Thursday I did a test first thing in the morning with First Response (which says it can tell up to 6 days before your period is due) which I was kind of surprised had a faint positive line. Later that day I did a clear blue which was negative. Friday I did a clear blue which came up as 1-2 weeks pregnant. But I’ve just done another clear blue and it’s not pregnant. I’m devastated.

I’d to tell work due to health and safety issues and it caused a huge amount of hassle, very poor support and now loads of people know. Now I feel like I’ve to tell everyone.

This is a very much wanted baby. I always wanted 3 and I’m nearly 40 so wanted it to happen soon but didn’t expect it to happen so quickly. I felt I could have done with another month. Part of me was feeling sorry for myself that I’d miss out on mulled wine and cheeseboards and knew landing this on work on Christmas week was a nightmare and really didn’t want to have to deal with now so I feel like I’ve brought this on myself a bit.

Is there any chance I’m still pregnant? I don’t want any hope if there’s none left.

Anyone any advice/hope?

Its best to compare the same exact type of text, all taken with first morning urine. However, I'm going to be honest that a not pregnant result when you should be a few weeks pregnant is unlikely to be good news.

I would advise you buy a few normal tests of same type then take one each morning. If they get fainter and then you get a period id suspect that this was an early miscarriage. If they get stronger, wayhay its fine. The other option is to ask your gp to do hcg bloods but many healthboards will not do these.

Thanks so much for the reply @TheDaydreamBelievers. I reckon I would still only be about 4 weeks but I’ve no idea really. I’ve another clear blue I’ll do tomorrow morning and I guess keep my fingers crossed.

Turns out all hope is lost. Fairly broken.

I'm sorry @IsAllHopeLost123 wishing you all the best for the future. Early miscarriages are awful but very common and do not mean it wouldn't work out next time

You can still have a baby aged over 40. Life would be exhausting with a tiny baby and young toddler.

In answer to your OP, 'is all hope lost?'

You know the only grown up reply is 'C'mon!'

Most pregnancies are lost before we even know we're pregnant. We don't personally know because we aren't taking endless tests.

You say you've 'not been trying' but evidently your heart is elsewhere.

Don't be broken by a negative at 4 weeks. There's a journey ahead, as this means a lot more to you than 'not been trying' suggests.

I hope it ultimately works out for you.

Thanks for the replies