Please advise!! Need some sensible advice

[Wannabamummy]

hi all

am needing some help please, the wisdom of all of you out there if you've a few mins to spare

Im currently working in recruitment, and im in a new department, but am feeling like ive not got much job security, i rent my house with my DP who is employed in a secure( well as secure as can be!)job on the up an up, my job has never relaly been all thatimportant to me in terms of a career, i wouldnt work if i didnt have to.. however DP and i are goin to be TTC-ing form june which i know is a while away, and im sure im treading on some toes just being here!! apologies if i am. I just dont know what to do about my job, because i am constantly worried about being made redundant, but dont want to leave as money is gd and because i will qualify for mat pay, however im worried that i will get pg andbe made redundant, this happened to me last year while 8 wks pg and the stress caused me to have a part mc and have to have a d and c, obv very traumatic.

Am more than ready tohear your views? would you leave and start again elsehwere and re-build mat entitlement, thing is i dont want to wait to try? or would you ride it out and hope for the best and run the risk of being made redundant again? i know this is long winded but any opinion would be fab. Its further complicated by the fact that my partner and i are both just getting out of debt and currently have loan repayments to meet each month as well as bills and rent etc. sorry to ramble but jus need some down to earth advice!!! PLEASE

You could try calculating the difference between statutory maternity pay (ie the minimum you would get if you went to a new job and didn't accrue any enhancements before falling pregnant) and the maternity pay you would get at your current job - it may make things a little clearer in terms of whether you'd be able to pay off your debts etc... I think if you google the HMRC page on stat maternity pay you can find the current info.

thanks so much i hadnt thought of it that way! i was also conceerned about whether it would bedifficult to get a new job when pg,if made redundant whilst pg, if i were showing??

Wannabamummy I would recommend using this website to work out what you would get and what your rights are. It is very helpful, like Hopefully said to have an idea of your financial situation and if possibly start saving for a baby.

The other thing I would suggest is to examine coherently your suspicions as to why the job is unstable and why you may be made redundant again. Is it office rumours? The company going through a take over or does the atmosphere in the place not give you much confidence? I don?t want to offend you but please don?t think that because you were made redundant once it will automatically happen again ? unfortunately you associate mc with redundancy and stress. I am very, very sorry about your mc, I too suffered one in Oct 06 and I can safely say it makes you think that all sorts of things will go wrong. If you are new and feel concern for your job please express your concerns to your dept head. Do you have an appraisal coming up? Could you meet up with your boss for a catch up and ask what the future company strategy is and where s/he sees you/your dept within that?

To answer your question about how employable a pg woman is, well no employer can discriminate against you. However, given that you work in recruitment, if you fell pg whilst unemployed could you not do temping? I am on an 18 mth contract and if I fall pg towards the end of it (but I am really hoping it will be earlier!!) I am think of doing high level temping for as long as I can.

TTC is a lottery - some people catch really soon, others have to work a little harder at it. In the meantime treat yourself and take one day at a time. Getting over a mc is very hard. Take it easy and good luck!

thank you all so much for your help and advice i will seriously consider it all, think i maybe need to join a mc thread and get some help that way cos DP is still to hurt to talk about it x

Come and join us here. Everyone is at differemt stages of mc or TTC after mc. You'll make lots of freinds and we all know what you are going through.