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so if I am not pg this month that is it - the end of ttc [sad].

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allIWannaBeForChristmas · 18/12/2007 13:54

and of course I won't be pg.. just the same as I haven't been pg for the past 2.5 years.

but dh has had enough, and has said that if not pg at the end of this year then we should stop.

so I am due on on Friday, and then that will be it.

I knew it would come to this really. I guess I knew once we'd been ttc for a year that we wouldn't be having any more children, and have said I was going to go back on the pill so many times but at the end of the day just couldn't bring myself to do it.

I am a ve positive person and I am very happy with the ds I have and know that I have so much to be grateful for.

it just seems so final now that I know I will never have another one.

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camillathechicken · 18/12/2007 13:58

really sorry to hear that. of course, it is easy to say count your blessings and be grateful for DS, but that does not take away the longing for another child, and imagining an other child. miracles happen, never give up hope. be well, be happy, enjoy the festive season, and start 2008 with a plan and a focus that does not involve TTC.... the world is your lobster, as my best friend says !

lulu x

soph28 · 18/12/2007 14:10

why do you have to go back on the pill. why don't you just forget about ttc and relax, don't make a big deal of it (not so easy when you're in the situation, I know) and see what happens. I'm sure that by focussing so much on ttc each month it can add a lot of stress and pressure to your relationship. Anyway I hope it doesn't have to be so final for you, you never know what might happen.

MrsTittleMouse · 18/12/2007 18:51

Oh I'm so sorry for you. We have a DD from fertility treatment and we have only four "goes" left for another, so I might be in your position this time next year.
I'm going to disagree with everyone else and say that you shouldn't relax and never give up hope etc etc. Assuming that your husband realises how sad you are, and still thinks that time is up, I think that you need time to grieve for the second child that you haven't had. It is a big deal, and it's a big dream that you need to let go of.

merrylissiemas · 18/12/2007 19:01

oh wannabe, i know exactly how you feel. as mrsTM says, you need to grieve and take time out. have you seen a consultant? im sorry x

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